They talked while he was @ work. I founds his phone one night and saw her number and called. Told her to stop calling. But she calls every blue-moon. He locked his phone so I can't check it anymore. The reason he did it, b/c I didn't love on him enough. They haven't messed w/ each other (that I know of.) But why can't she stop calling him if they only knew each other for 'bout a month or two. When I confronted her the first time she caried more than I did. I let him go be w/ her the same nite i found out 'bout her. (kinda dumb right) That was so that he could tell her that it was over. We have 2 kids together. I want to hear from him that he was wrong but he doesn't think he was. It would be different if i was in his shoes. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-12 05:31:53 · 22 answers · asked by Vo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the reason this girl keeps calling is because he is telling her that it is ok...it doesn't matter what you say to her women have no respect for eachother he is giving her the impression that it is still ok to call him even though you have told her to stop...and don't despair...just because you have two kids together that just means you have two kids it's not always good for parents to stay together and if these problems that you two are have are projecting onto or around the kids then you need to split up...it's about them now....not you and him...it's sad i know and you wanna be happy first but you're not first anymore you made sure of that when you had children...i wish you the best of luck and i hope that your boyfriend comes to his senses in the meantime...COME TO YOURS!!!!
2006-06-12 05:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by *steelers* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not cheating if he didnt mess around, it was just lying (which is still bad). On the other hand, you being suspicious to the point of calling the number on his phone doesnt instill much confidence either. The more you do things like that, the more you're going to upset him. The best thing you can do is let him know you love him, and tell him you trust him to do the right thing, but also let him know that you're willing to do whats best for you if he makes poor choices. Also, instead of going behind each others backs when theres a problem, why dont you try talking about it instead? If not for you, at least for your childrens sake.
2006-06-12 05:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by strictlyrouge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he's talking to another girl isn't cheating, but the fact that he'd go to extra lengths to keep you out of his business (i.e, locking the phone) is a definite sign that things are going on that shouldn't be, and he's trying to shift blame from himself on to you saying that you don't love him enough to trust him, even though he is no longer acting in good faith.
Regardless if he's actually cheating or not, this doesnt' seem like a person you should trust any farther you can throw him. This girl obviously does not care or respect your place, so you need to confront him and clamp down hard if not just outright leave.
2006-06-12 05:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your question yourself by saying," The reason he did it, b/c I didn't love on him enough."
Well everyone who reads you question can only make a wild guess that it is cheating. Only your husband and the other girls know if it is cheating. Sometimes men just hide the things from their wives so that they don't misunderstand.
If you really love him and want to be with him, be more understanding. Just open the doors for him. Let him talk to her. Coz when you tell some one not to do this, he/she will definitely do that. Give him some time, love and affection and see if that works.
2006-06-12 06:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by rustam_e_hind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if i was u i would let him go. I know it is hard to let go when u love but also love makes u pretty blind so therefore u will believe whatever he tells you if he tells you the right way. He just have to kiss your behind good enough 4 you to believe him, and he knows that.
He don't think he is wrong 4 what he did????So that means he will do it again and again and again because WHY ???? He didn't do anything wrong.RIGHT??? Let him go girl. i been there done that and i know it is not easy but once he is out of Ur heart u'll c that u made the right turn in life
2006-06-12 05:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not saying he cheated but yet i cant say he did not. There is really no excuse for what he did to you but if he is sorry try to move past it and ask the girl what he did with her. I am sure she would be more then willing to tell you what happened here. Whether he admits it or not he was wrong and he knows it and so do you. Seek counseling and help here too!
2006-06-12 05:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very common problem in relationships where there is something missing.
Did you try finding out why is he going to her/talking to her instead of blaming him for everything?
Try looking into your relationship and see what is missing. Typically, lot of people stopped communication and showing affection once they are into a relationship for a while and are in comfortable zone. Think about it and I think that should help.
2006-06-12 05:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are weird Chav, why on earth do you stick to this silly old fart of a bf even if you have two kids from him? are you waiting for him to "mess" around with his tart for real so that you'll leave him? just dump the bastard and find someone worthy of you. Good Luck to you and the kids.
2006-06-12 05:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to shape up. If he locked his phone- he dosent want you to see things-I would confrnt him, probably away from the kids- tell him that if he loves you and he wants to be with you he needs to be more honest and open
i would also set up a meeting with the other women to tell her to stop calling and that part of you BFs life is over
oh and yes, this is cheating
2006-06-12 05:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a shortage of good men in the earth?give him 1 more chance and say all the things u feel. if u not satisfied belive me there r thousend of ggod ppl outta there who realy care abt u. luv and respect.i hope thiz matter wiil resolve soon and u ll ve a happy love life.Thank You
2006-06-12 05:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by Rohit S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋