I have been hurt in the past by dozens of men { not exactly dozens but more like 9} and I'm so jaded and bitter when it comes to trusting the man in my life now. Everywhere he goes, I always think in the back of mind that im gon get that phone call telling me that he doesn't love me anymore. I know I should just let it flow but its hard!
2006-06-12 05:31:54 · 10 answers · asked by llsexychick16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard to trust a man when you have been hurt before time and time again. Like me, I have been lied to, cheated on and hurt by several men in the past. My boyfriend now and I have a long past together and we both have an issue of trust towards the other. We have been messing around for almost six years and this last time of being together it has been almost 3 years. He is the love of my life and I want to trust him when he leaves with his friend whom I don't trust. But it is something you have to let go and realize that there are always going to be women in his life. Even if it's a girl who is hitting on him at the bar, don't get jealous, I have figured out that men don't like the jealous types. Just be cool with him and honest and he will be honest with you.
2006-06-12 05:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kasie Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am the same way. I know my boyfriend is a great guy but I just cant help being suspicious. I always wonder if he really is where he says he is or if he really went where he said he went in the back of my mind, even though I know (at least some part of me knows) he's not lying. It's so hard to open up and trust someone when you have been lied to and deceived so many times before. You just have to remember that this guy is not those other guys, he is a different person. Remember that just because those guys were jerks, doesn't mean he is, because he is not those guys. Sometimes you have to take a great risk to get a great reward. Trusting someone is always taking a risk, but sometimes the reward is worth it.
2006-06-12 12:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fake it!!! which is just as hard believe me for i have the same issues you do and also have had other issues within this relationship at the beginning that would constitute for less trustworthiness from me on his part. but i still would try to make him believe you do trust and still keep antennas up and eyes wide open if there is any reasons for real to not trust him it will be easier to detect and find out about if he is less "on guard" so to speak. but i too would let him know how badly duked in the past youve been and that you feel the way you do but that that is why and then maybe he will at least understand why your having trouble trusting him, and then FAKE IT1
2006-06-12 12:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by uniquebutsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time and effort will heal your broken heart. Sometimes it's good to be cautious but if it's ruining your relationship you have to find a way to control it. Talk to your man and explain why you feel the way you do and make sure he knows it's not necessarily something he's doing but your past that makes you feel like that. If he knows to be extra sensitive and reassuring of his feelings for you, you'll feel a lot better.
2006-06-12 12:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How fast do you get into another relationship, after one has gone bad??????? You need to heal between relationships in order to have a healthy relationship in the future. Why don't you just be single for a while and work on yourself???? Trust me, once you deal with your own issues, you'll know whom to trust in a relationship.
2006-06-12 12:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by phillymami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to live like that. Open your heart and learn to love. Yes men will hurt you but you need to pick your face up off the floor and keep it movin
2006-06-12 12:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of pain, thats how we know were living. If you go through the rest of your life not trustting anoyone you might miss out on the right person
2006-06-12 12:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by blueyes192003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tune into your instincts the best you can and let them tell you what is just in your mind and when a guy is really cheating. One thing is for sure, you can't take their word for it. Best Wishes!!
2006-06-12 12:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be open with yourself before you can with someone.
Trust and communication are the keys to any relationship.
Always try!
Good Luck!
2006-06-12 12:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by lovelyyounglady92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust no one.
2006-06-12 12:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by AXE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋