Married for 10+ years. Spouse developed alcoholism, quit regular job, & for the last couple of years, spends most of his day either sleeping, or drinking at the computer in chat rooms (mostly with gay priests) & generally has been unsupportive of me (emotionally, financially, physically, sexually). I've asked in the past for him to seek help for his drinking, & told him of my needs/desires, & mostly he changes for a couple weeks, & then slides back after he feels the heat is off. I'm tired of this. He claims he loves me, but I think he loves having a wife paying 85% of the bills, keeping house, providing health insurance, etc. I told him 1 month ago that's it, & he wants yet another chance, & for the month, he's stopped drinking & picking up after himself. I told him I can't say I love him anymore, & I don't want a marriage of convenience. He wants to keep trying, but I feel I don't want to try anymore - I've been jerked around enough. How many chances is "fair"?
2007-06-17
04:02:12
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