I frequently offer advice on this "expert" advice website, and my father is a former high school counselor. We've both noticed a tendency among teenagers who ask for relationship advice: Being that they are inexperienced, teenagers often make mistakes, which is perfectly fine and natural. However, their questions in regards to the mistakes are often about how to "make" the other person change their feelings. We often hear questions like:
"How do I get him/her to like/forgive me?"
"How do I fix it so s/he knows I won't do it again?"
"How do I get him/her to come back to me"
"How do I get him/her to give me a second chance?"
We often become frustrated because no matter how we try to convey that you can't "make" a person feel one way or another, they rarely seem to agree or understand.
So my question is, why is this? And also, is there anyway to make this concept more comprehensible to teenagers?
2007-04-29
06:09:14
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JudasHero
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