I have tried asking her things such as "Anything I could do to satisfy you more? What do you hope to accomplish by buying things for people, myself included, that we often say we do not need?". But fact is my g/f can not keep a savings (spends all job money on luxuries) and seems to be constantly flirting and, in the meantime, has no real hobbies (no music, cooking, reading, etc. ...just watching movies of non-mutual interest). She constantly mentions having kids but between savings, lack of will to stay in shape (and corresponding frequent sickness), and a short temper I find myself walking "out of the room" a lot and fear she does not have the energy or discipline to raise kids well. It admittedly has become a game of give-and-take: when she continually asks me to, say, see chick flicks for 5 evenings in a row, I say "no let's go out, exercise, or do something fun or healthy like we used to in our early dating days". But she's just not the same how do I get through to her?
2006-12-17
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