If abortion liberates women, does being an abandoning father liberate men.?

Question

If a women gets pregnant and does not want to have a child she makes that choice and no one else. The father has no say because it is not his body. Since she gets 100% of the choice she has 100% of the responsibility. So if a father wants the child to be born it doesnt matter because it's not his body, not his choice. But if the women wants to have the baby and the father doesn't, he cant make her get an abortion because it's her body. And since he has no choice, he has no responsibility to the child because he did not choose to have it. The question here is if women can choose to be mothers after pregnancy shouldnt men too.
Is this what i beleive, NO. I think when mothers abort their children and fathers runaway from their children it is wrong. And both of these people are no differnent from each other. If "liberating myself" is not taking responsibility for my actions then what kind of country are we living in. The CHOICE to be a parent is when you say yes or no to having sex

Answer 1

Well said. I agree 100%.
If you feel a baby is too much of a burden, the solution is very simple: take contraceptives or keep your legs closed!

Answer 2

That was deep brother and I agree with you. You are speaking out against an obvious double standard but first I would add that since both men and women know the risk it simply makes men have that what i like to call the 'Adam' syndrome. There he was the first on the scene with all the rules of success and failure and soon as a woman comes along take a minute or two to enjoy her body then he's blaming her for his problem. He knew what to do to avoid any problems but evidently the lure of hot sex made him really hungry! He knew what to do to stay out of trouble far greater than Eve but since he did not operate in self-control then he and Eve both ended up in trouble. At this point it's called 'waiving your rights' Simply having sex indicates two things could possibly happen... pregnancy and or STDs. If before you do the act you consider it not important enough to protect your rights by making right choices not only for yourself but your possible child then I believe that he has decided to throw away the opportunity to have any say in anything because he's seen the Maury Shows. There would be no babies without men so wear a rubber or abstain until you get married. At least when you're married you are sure to have some rights that way. If you first do not control yourself, then you'll more than likely end up with no control of your life, dude. Just remember all men have % 100 of the choice right before they pursue the woman right up to the point he where he decides NOT to wear the condom. Holla

Answer 3

I sort of agree with you, except for the fact that, until the baby is born, the burden of responsibility falls (no pun intended) heavily and primarily upon the woman. Even if the guy goes away and comes back years later, for those nine months it is the woman who has to deal with the physical and pschological aspects of pregnancy.

This isn't like penguins, where the mother hatches an egg, and the father takes his turn sitting on it. The father can only assist indirectly with a pregnancy through the mother, by going places for her, making her as comfortable as needed, providing emotional support and reassurance, etc, but even that is not mandatory, it is entirely voluntarily. The woman cannot choose to take that egg, put it in an incubator, and come back a week later and have implanted, and do that every week. Once the egg is fertilized, it stays there until it comes out, one way or another.

That exclusivity, and the burden entailed, does mean that the woman has an unequal say of what happens to her during pregnancy. But that is part of the price of being a man. To be a man means to feel, and learn to cope with, that lack of intimate distance during pregnancy that a woman has. No man may share in a woman's pregnacy directly, but no woman may know the joys of pregnancy without a man's intimate help. To be a woman means to intimately feel that connection, and everything it brings. To be a man means learning to wait, learning to deal with one's sense of helplessness, and preparing.

As for choice, I (and alot of other people) can make you do alot of things you don't want to do. I can make you eat a bowl of yak dung, does that mean you make a choice whether or not to expel it? The choice to be a parent is biological; the choice to be involved, understanding, and supportive, is individual.

Answer 4

I really dont have an answer because i agree with you 100%. So just kudoos to you and i wish more people thought like you. Im sure you will get some hippies or miseducated people to argue this point on here with you though. Yahoo is good for that. You get alot of hippie liberals and unemployed jerry springers that love to spawn and not take actions for there life.