Yes - children need discipline and clear boundaries. However -- If a child is doing something wrong and you haul off and hit him, you are doing so in a moment of anger. If you say "oh, I cool off first, then spank," I don't understand that either. If you can take the time to cool off, surely you can devise more appropriate ways to discipline your child. I know it can be difficult to get out of the habit - particularly if your parents spanked you. Indeed, I know some people have trouble because deciding not to spank means they have to deal with their parents saying "I spanked you, and you turned out okay." When what actually happened is that you learned from your parent that it's okay to inflict physical pain when a child does something wrong. Try to put your parents out of the picture - YOU are the adult now and your child is testing his/her boundaries. Why are you still resorting to hitting your child?
2006-09-13
03:48:25
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