My husband and I had a long talk with our preacher last night about my stepson and his behavior. He has only lived with us for 3 months. His behavior is not any better than it was at his moms. He is lying, stealing (just recently stole my older brothers high school ring, luckily we got it back), back talks, and has now gotten kicked off the bus. My husband went asked the preacher to come over cause he see's how frustrated over my stepsons behavior that I am. The preacher basically told us that we can not let this child destroy our family. He feels that my stepson who is 12 knows full well what he is doing, and knows right from wrong. He is just choosing the wrong to get attention and to cause problems between my husband and I. Our preacher feels that since I have taken on a full time parenting role in his life I deserve respect and have certain "rights". He feels that my husband should allow me to be the one to dole out any punishments for awhile, and if he makes it clear that he backs me up completely, my stepson will know that his bad behavior is not going to break us up. He also feels that we can not allow my stepson to cause turmoil in our household, considering that I have a son and my husband and I have a 2 yr. old daughter together. He even feels that we need to let him know that it is his choice to change his behavior and that the consequences of continuing to do the things he is doing, might be that he has to go back to his mothers house. He feels that he is trying to “play the victim” and that if we allow it and don’t set down strict, if not harsh, punishments, he will destroy our marriage. Do you think he has a good point?
2006-09-06
14:09:01
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LittleMermaid
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