What would you do if.....?

Question

Scenario:
You're only 18 years old.
You got pregnant by your monogamous boyfriend.
You're currently living with your mom and working full time.
And your mom tells you that you HAVE to get an abortion, yet you feel that you should have to take responsibilty for your actions, which doesn't mean abortion.

What would you do?

First of all, thanks everyone for all your replies so far.
I just wanted to say that the only reason I'm living with my mom now is so I could save up enough money to move out without having any financial problems. I was planning on moving out in january anyway, but I guess it may be a little sooner now....

Answer 1

She is going to be the one who has to live with the decision. Is abortion something she could live with? Personally, I am against abortion except in certain conditions-but I don't get all crazy about the issue. I don't feel it should be an easy way out though.
When a person is the age of 18-she doesn't have to have someone else make her decisions....It may mean making some changes-but so what? Sometimes, we just have to do what we have to do to make it. So, if being on her own is a struggle-she can do it if she really wants to. There are lot of agencies to help people out. She needs to check out all of her resources so that she can be ready to move on her own if she has to.
Also, may I say how great it is for someone who wants to take responsibility for their actions? Today, way too many people try to take the easy way out.

Answer 2

I believe that no matter what abortion is wrong the poor child did nothing to deserve that . You need to decide if you feel you can take care of the child yourself or not your working thats a good thing ! If you really think you cant handle it and really dont want it I would not get a abortion but put the child up for adoption there are tons of couples who cant get pregnant and desperatly want a baby . Babys are a gift and most mothers who worry at first are happy that they went through with it ! I hope you figure out which road you are going to take . I wish you good luck ! I myself would go ahead and have the baby it is apart of you !

Answer 3

Your mom can not force you to do anything because your 18 and are an adult and it is your baby.

Even if you were 1under 18 and pregnant she would have no say because once you become pregnant you are considered an adult...

I got pregnant at 16 and had my baby at 17 and my mom tried to get me to get an abortion but I asked my moms cousin who is a cop if she could force me to and he said no she has no say in the matter because I am not considered an adult and it is my child and my body.

If you need any help you can always get help from the goverment, they will set you up in a home and give you money every month.

Your mom sounds like a b****, it is your child not hers and she needs to respect your decision and I think you taking responsibility for your actions and getting pregnant is awsome and shows your very mature.

If you would like to talk to other young moms check out justmommies.com , it is a forum site for mothers of all ages and they have a teen pregnancy forum for mothers under 20 and a teen mommies bored for mothers under 20

Answer 4

You have your own life. Do not do Abortion. I was pressured into it once and I hate myself for it. I also had to have two surgeries on top of it because my abortion was botched. There are many people out there that would love to adopt your baby. Parents that can not have baby's on there own. You can even pick your baby's parents, and alot of them let you keep in touch with your biological child. I would stick with your heart. You are on the right track. If your mother has anything to say then tell her its your life and as soon as it is not in your body you will take care of your responsibilities. (whatever that may be) You seem smart. You will figure it out. oh and just so you know, 18 is legal age. You do not HAVE to do anything anyone says.

Answer 5

Hey I just found out that I'm pregnant and I'm 18..living with my mom & stepdad. I'm totally against abortion but you should make ur own choice about abortion no matter what ur mother says. When it cums to stuff like this, don't do anything just bcuz sum1 else wants u to; do it bcuz it's what YOU want. ...maybe u could go live with ur boyfriend or stay with a friend for a little while. Ur mom might change her mind once she starts missing you being at home & comes to her senses that it ur life & ur baby.

Answer 6

Move out. I would NEVER consider abortion, as it isn't the baby's fault that I screwed up. As soon as the baby's born, I'll give it up for adoption and my boyfriend had better help me with living costs- he helped with "making" the baby, after all!

This is a purely hypothetical situation- per se, I would never have sex with anyone except my spouse (and that's after marriage); and if by any remote, infinitesimal chance I ever did, and I got pregnant as a result, my mom would never demand that I get an abortion.

Answer 7

I was 17 living at home at my moms only knew the father a few months!. My family strongly suggested abortion. I got a job quit school moved out with the father who was only 21. We are no longer together our sons 10.5 years old. I never moved back home I've been fine. My mom said f i decided to keep the baby it was on me she has stood by her choice I've stood my mine. I'm now married he has a 8 year old sister I'm 24 weeks pregnant buying a home own new cars we are fine.

Answer 8

Follow your heart. You are 18 years old so therefore you are an adult. If you want to have the baby then do that. Get your own apartment. Social Services can help you with food stamps or welfare if you need that much. Get some Wic. Tell the boyfriend help you out. Don't do something you will regret later.

Answer 9

What would I do? Have the baby, no question. But what I would do is not the issue, it is what you should do. That is YOUR decision alone. Your mom can not make you do anything. If you have the baby, that baby is going to be your responsibility and not hers. I've always held the belief that if people feel they are responsible enough to have sex, then they should also consider the possibility that they may become pregnant and be ready to also deal with that responsibility.

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 10

Move out! She cannot tell you to have an abortion. If you feel it is wrong and you kill your baby you will NEVER get over it. Your mom will come around when the baby is born. Even though I don't think it is a good idea for teens to be having sex, I would NEVER tell my child that they had to kill their baby! I would ask them if they thought that they were ready to raise a child, and if not I would talk to them about adoption.