I am supporting my new partner through alot of his past crap, ie sueing his ex, lots of pictures of his ex, websites...etc. i understand his need to cherish the past, that he has alot of fond memories and have no intention of errasing it. but he does have very fixed views, if i question a desition of his regarding the whole ex thing he get very deffensive, doesnt talk and even just says "thats how its staying and thats that!". Even when i have told him how something is upseting me he refuses to budge an inch, he wants things his way, how it was befor we met......its difficult because he is so lovely in everyother way, he cooks dinners, does little romantic gestures........but will not bend his view in anyother way, no matter how unreasonable and upsetting he sees hes being. I need a gentle approach to get him to loosen up, aprecate how much i am supporting him, that i wont hurt him like his ex did and to take my feelings and opinion into consideration when making desitions.
2006-08-31
02:22:48
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