Psychology - October 2006

what colour do you think is mostly represened for the following:
Power
Democracy
Modern
Dynamic
Inclusive

2006-10-01 11:05:06 · 19 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6

Steps to Staying Calm


The first step to defusing that upsurge of angry energy is to realize that it is possible to be provoked into an argumentative situation at any given moment. Defiant, argumentative people do not really want to hear, listen or receive what you have to say. They are poised and ready to spring into defiance and disagreeableness. They are set to discount any, if not all, of your perceptions, thoughts or feelings. They are rejectors and life with them is usually punctuated with unpleasantness, fights and yes, even violence. These are the people that you just want to punch and throw through a wall. Real closeness and intimacy with them is virtually next to impossible.

The second step, if possible, is to avoid deep intimate relationships with such people. They will only cause you grief. Their attacks on your character will bring out sides of yourself that you will not like. It is best to form close relationships only with those people who do not trigger your intense, negative reactions. There are so many wonderful, agreeable, positive people in this world with whom you can get along. So why struggle! You have a right to receive as much happiness, joy and pleasure as you can stand. Remember, entering into relationships with provocative people will only make you unhappy and could injure your self-esteem. Put downs are not a positive experience, so avoid vexatious people. Learn how to control your angry/anxious reactions when in the company of such individuals. Your first response to such negative interactions may be to raise your voice. If this happens, it is an indication that you have a need that is not being met.

The third step to defusing angry energy is to realize that most provocative situations involve a competition for need satisfaction. You may feel that someone is being insensitive to your needs. The truth is, the other person also has needs to be satisfied you are both in competition. For example, there is a group of kids being very noisy in the next room. You are watching television and they are interfering with your need for relaxation and entertainment. However, in reality, they are only trying to satisfy their need for playful fun and are not being deliberately provocative. They only want to satisfy their needs, the same as you. Your anger rises, but you immediately let it go and remain calm. You choose to postpone satisfying your needs for the moment. On the other hand, you could have satisfied your needs first by gently telling the children to keep the noise down. Either way of handling the situation prevents your getting upset and allows the kids to keep playing without disturbing you. Everybody wins and you have kept your cool.

When I was a young boy I saw two neighborhood fathers fist fighting over their kids and a rubber ball. A simple dispute escalated into full scale warfare between grown men. The fight started with their children but soon involved the whole neighborhood. In my opinion the quarrel should have stayed with the kids. Parents should stay out of such disputes and only enter to remove their children if the action gets too hot and heavy. That way, you protect your child and you do not get involved with your rage and violence. The choice of not fighting fits into your philosophy of not being able to successful get what you want in this manner.



The fourth step is avoid becoming triangled into someone else's quarrel and this method of choosing not to get angry keeps that from occuring. It is always better to send the antagonists back to each other in order to work things out. That way you do not make their problem, your problem. The rule of thumb: if two or more people are acting provocatively it is better to separate them by pulling yourself or your child out of the fracas. If you don't, you will be in danger of being provoked. That situation will not get your needs met ... your goal is to get your needs met without being provoked into rage.

2006-10-01 10:57:42 · 3 answers · asked by Kimberly S 1

Thanks to the nice people at yahoo answers, i have allready discovered the physical causes of attarction to another human being, but now i was wondering, can these feelings be stopped, are they deliberate IE is it ever possible to stop fancying someone instead of pretending not to?

2006-10-01 10:37:05 · 4 answers · asked by jamie m 1

it seems like i can hold it for 30 mins but as soon as i get in the bathroom i feel like im gonna blow

2006-10-01 10:28:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What personality traits does this typically involve, or is it an issue of self esteem?

2006-10-01 10:27:10 · 21 answers · asked by sandie 2

2006-10-01 10:25:11 · 10 answers · asked by origamix60 3

god is inside us all in our own personal way. i unfortunatly cannot find it in my heart to seak him out in my mind. is there a reason? and why does he hide in me? and i evil? what is evil and why do i feel evil around other and want to cause them harm and pain? where am i?

2006-10-01 10:21:03 · 14 answers · asked by origamix60 3

2006-10-01 09:52:41 · 9 answers · asked by Y 2

I consider myself as this rude, selfish, fun hating girl and I want to be the exact opposite. My mom amd step-dad and brother have all told me I suck the fun out og everything. I want to be this fun loving girl, I want to be risky and a wild child. How can I do that?

2006-10-01 09:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by loveurlife93 1

2006-10-01 08:55:14 · 3 answers · asked by azu 1

have your skin peeled off by a cucumber peeler or hang upside down for 72 hours?

2006-10-01 08:54:38 · 36 answers · asked by TCARANON 1

answer the following questions and i will greatly appreciate it and you will get 10 people....

1. describe the stimulus and receptors for taste and explain the difference for olfaction than all the other senses.


2. outline how sensory process occurs in the ear.

2006-10-01 08:46:47 · 10 answers · asked by §gorda§ 3

2006-10-01 08:24:25 · 1 answers · asked by dardo4u2 1

2006-10-01 08:16:08 · 6 answers · asked by DLDC07 1

2006-10-01 08:16:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't stand to have people yell at me! What method works for making them calm down?

2006-10-01 08:04:28 · 22 answers · asked by Inno 3

2006-10-01 07:52:40 · 1 answers · asked by melon_rose 2

2006-10-01 07:37:02 · 4 answers · asked by melon_rose 2

ok i have a psychology degree and have just done a masters in inclusive and special education now my question/problem is that i have always wanted a career in psychology and now after doing this masters i am really confused dont know what to do!!!!. what type of job can i get????? any suggestions?? thx

2006-10-01 07:29:45 · 7 answers · asked by spirit268 2

Ok, when I was a child about 7 years old I was sexual abused by many guys and men, but have not been rapped. So there was no penetration. Some people told me that it does matter if you only were rapped, but it's not a big deal if someone took advantages of your genitals and put his fingers in your panties and did such things and forced you putting your hand on his Genital….1 )Is that right??
My parents told me that I'm a stubborn so they used to beaten so bad when I was a kid for doin something wrong. They say that beating is good method to rise up children in better way so they obey.2) right?
In fact, all these years I used to be very isolated person even from my family members specifically after I had my first period. I still do not have any close friend. So I lack communication skills and stuff like that…I also have social phobia.
This caused me kinda of being invisible to the people. Actually it is relieving for me to be out of the centre of other's attention since I dun feel comfortable when am around them. When I 'm in insecure all I do to sit in the corner, on my bed or behind the couch and pull my legs to my chest or hold something close for example a bear, a pillow anything to feel better I'm 24*
For last 5 years I would say I kept ignoring my feelings which are toward my self even denying my existence and hate being a female and be shame of it. I turned to be a very lazy person. I kept sitting in the house and do almost nothing in my life. Within those years I tired to mix up wit some people, but now I noticed that this mixing up was all about forgetting my self, my pain, and could not find a way to express my self and found out the reason of all that was happening to me. I did not have my way of thinking my ideas and views which I believe in and which give me the power faith in life. I jus was not aware of the consequences of that molestation!!!!!
So I turned to be a pretender. I was afraid of being rejected*
I always have the thought that other people have the right to attack my core and offend me.
, I know that am very sensitive and considerate person and I dun like to hurt anybody else*
Recently I started to attend a college to study something and do something in my life.
Now when am grown up I face this problem with guys…I just can not love a guy anymore, but I still do have the lust to the opposite sex so if I will have a relationship
It will be jus for screwing to quench my desire*
But some time my strong desire makes me look cheap to guys…and I miss some of classes cuz I can not focus on my aims.
Honestly I freak out from inside when I talk with a handsome. I get jumbled with my words, and my heart beats fast. It feels like a death shock to me.
Some students told me that I should be highly confident cuz of my unique beauty and attraction I have. But they dun understand what kind of **** lays in me.
*'m obsessed about having sex. Do the entire sexual abuse survivor are same as me in this point?
What kinda of mental diseases do I have?
In my country there people dun care about going to a psychology doctor they jus think it is futile. And that you are crazy if you been there for once. I know there are ignorant.
Note am masochistic. Incase someone made me feel bad I cut my body with a scissor until I see blood runs out from some areas then relax.

2006-10-01 07:23:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Praise or Critisism?.

2006-10-01 07:22:31 · 23 answers · asked by Old Man of Coniston!. 5

2006-10-01 07:06:31 · 6 answers · asked by Sarah 3

2006-10-01 06:56:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

What's your moral code? Are there any principles that you would
be willing to risk or even sacrifice your life for?

2006-10-01 06:51:41 · 2 answers · asked by Alion 7

please help me... tnx....

2006-10-01 06:28:42 · 7 answers · asked by naynie 2

The people I know that are "now" schitzo were not always that way. In each case the person has been traumatized as a child or young teen. I believe Satan is the mastermind. When a person's mind is weekened due to some sort of trauma, molestation, death, abuse. Drugs do not cause schitzo but will intensify the effects.

2006-10-01 05:23:57 · 9 answers · asked by SuperSkinny 3

Is she...or isn't she?..........That is the question.

2006-10-01 05:15:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-01 05:02:41 · 7 answers · asked by rainee 1

2006-10-01 04:28:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-01 04:13:34 · 23 answers · asked by asad_mujtaba19 2