I can't stand to have people yell at me! What method works for making them calm down?
2006-10-01 08:04:28 · 22 answers · asked by Inno 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Make them marijuana brownies. Haha, just kidding. Tell them they are absolutely right. Because that's all they want. There's no more reason for them to yell if you say, "You know what, you're absolutely right and I am truly sorry". They will be speechless. Don't believe me? Try it!
2006-10-01 08:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sally Pepsi 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I dont know what will work, but I can tell you what NOT to do. Do not tell the person to "calm down" or "take it easy." This is more aggravation and makes the situation worse.
I wouldnt try to look at the yelling itself, but why are they yelling? Fix that and no more noise.
2006-10-01 10:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple... Make the peace sign and smile and say, "cool". Then just turn your back from that yelling person. That will make the person feel you're not up to absorb whatever that person is saying -- ignoring the person. When that person asks, simply say you prefer a calmer conversation and you're not going up against people who try to be all over you. That yelling person may probably assume that (he/she) can just make you nod at whatever that person say when (he/she) yells. Counter it by literally ignoring the person instead. But once that yelling person makes a hint of getting physical, prepare yourself to dial 911 immediately. Yelling persons are rather short-tempered.
Cheers!
^__^
2006-10-01 10:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I try to speak quietly in the hope that it will be an example. But, if they continue, I tell them that yelling at will only get them hit in the mouth. Honest. I treat others with dignity, but if they feel they need to browbeat me, well, I walk softly and carry a BIG stick.
I'm also fully prepared to carry out the threat. People who yell at you do so because they have no respect for your feelings or opinions. If they refuse to stop that behavior, I feel a good smack in the mouth is perfectly appropriate.
2006-10-01 08:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A swift kick in the balls should do it.
But seriously... If anyone is ever stupid enough to believe that they would ever get away with yelling at me and tries it.
I put my hand up to their face to block their view of me and just say. STOP! with as much conviction as I can.
when they shut up for a sec, I say calmly; "If you want to continue to be in my presence, I suggest you either take it down a thousand now or come back when you are rational and calm."
No one has the right to yell at you for any reason. Personally, I don't subject myself to it, even if I deserve it, neither should you!
2006-10-01 08:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do... DO NOT say calm down... for some reason it gets ppl more upset... and defensive and makes them feel like you are fighting with them. When your just exhausted right? well reverse pyschology always works... dont try to joke with them either makes the person think your not listening and they get louder. So what you can do is just agree with them again dont say this cliche "i understand" because its not true everyone goes through things feeling differently about things.
Say "what can i do to make you feel better?" "I am sorry" with out giving a arrogant remark afterwards... try not to devert the conversation but to let them speak without intterupting... for as long as you can...
2006-10-01 08:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by thought 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respond to them in a very calm and soothing voice. By comparison, hopefully, they will realize how ridiculous they are sounding. Remind them that you are talking to them in a calm, respectful tone. By yelling at you, they are doing nothing to get their point across, other than making themselves sound like an *** and making you angrier. If they continue to persist, tell them, "You are obviously very upset. Come back to see me when you've calmed down and we can talk about this civilly." or "You are yelling at me and I deserve more respect than that. When you want to talk to me nicely, I will listen. When you've calmed down, come talk to me." Basically, there is no reason for you to stand there, accepting that verbal abuse.
2006-10-01 08:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by psychgrad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have noticed one thing, YOU DONT! I have tried and tried and it just isnt posssible, unless visual cues are worked out, like if sit and touch your nose, while they are shouting at you, and keep ding this, and it seems to distract the person, or if you lean down and look at something on the ground, etc, these are small visual distractions, but other than that, if the shouter wants to shout, they will, no matter what. Try to take them to get their hearing tested also as that may be an issue as well.
2006-10-01 08:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only way to calm someone down when they are yelling is to let them be...just tell them to calm down and come talk to you when they are in a better mood.
2006-10-01 08:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by cutie7191 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it is a small child start..hugging and soothing.. stating out loud...you need a hug. if it is an adult... you should walk away..stating when they calm down..you will talk.. but not until then. maintain.. a low tone with your voice... do not yell back... ask.. why are you yelling.. i am not hollaring at you... it depends on situation and who person is... when you use the above...
2006-10-01 08:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that person is drunk, whisper to them. Works every time. Assuming the person is sober, and they are not your boss, then tell them to stop yelling, or you're outta there. And mean it.
2006-10-01 08:15:02 · answer #11 · answered by morlock825 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋