Gender Studies - September 2006

If it pays you well. Will you be the next???

2006-09-18 03:57:37 · 6 answers · asked by deshanto 2

its like they are branded cattle.

2006-09-18 03:23:31 · 27 answers · asked by Alfred E. Newman 6

1 - Intelligence
2 - Honesty
3 - Kindness
4 - Respectful
5 - Self assuredness
6 - Romantic

2006-09-18 02:38:25 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are we only defined by our roles as a wife, mother, lover? Do you feel constrained by these molds? If you could re-define yourself, what would you be?

2006-09-18 02:17:38 · 10 answers · asked by Optimistic 6

This letter was written in response to an article in the NY times:(with no harm meant to anyone in particular)

Dear Editor: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to an Indian male, good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Indian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we white women are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for oneof us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, SydneyPoitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Indian men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl.

Somewhere in VA.



The Response: Dear Editor:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Non-White men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Indian males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walkover their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Non-Whiteslike Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn!ut,Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson,and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.

Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were breastfeeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Indian women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Indian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colours and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and
reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has. BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walkover and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given. . . . .

Signed, Indian Royalty.

2006-09-18 01:07:20 · 18 answers · asked by bruno 2

If a woman mugs a man at knifepoint and demands his wallet/possessions, is it ok for him to punch her to knock her out, so he can get away without giving up his belongings? If you saw a man hit a woman in that situation, what would you think of him? Would you see him as a hero, a woman beater, or something else? And what would you do if you saw that situation take place?

2006-09-18 00:51:20 · 30 answers · asked by john 3

2006-09-18 00:21:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a man and If I lay out on the beach and see beautiul woman in bikini's that is fine - that is acceptable because I chose to go there. But if I go to the mall or around the neighborhood - I shouldn't have to be forced to view such unmodest provocation - sexy woman, half dressed wearing boustierre, tight form jeans, mini skirts, showing off beautiful sexy bodies. Its forced upon my view and I can't help but look ( I'm a guy ) It all comes down to this. WHY am I being forced to VIEW SOMETHING I CAN'T HAVE? I won't go to a Ferrari dealership and view because I already know it will depress me because I can't have it... Ladies, do us not so good looking guys a break and try to dress a bit more modest - because it does bother some!

2006-09-17 22:59:49 · 24 answers · asked by johncharlesrealty 2

2006-09-17 21:19:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

love will do anything for u...?

2006-09-17 19:25:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think it's a form of liberation or degradation?

2006-09-17 18:51:15 · 22 answers · asked by nunya 3

1 - Conviction
2 - Free Spirit
3 - Sensuality
4 - Dedication
5 - Humility
6 - Independence

2006-09-17 18:12:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-17 16:14:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please be as detailed as possible. I already know the answer, and am interested in other peoples views. Thank-You!

2006-09-17 16:08:54 · 12 answers · asked by geishainkyoto 2

My wife wants me to go to the Victoria Secret store with her tomorow. I am having a hard time with this cause I think it's strange for a guy to go there. What if my friends see me? How do I get out of it? Oh no what should I do?

2006-09-17 15:48:03 · 7 answers · asked by fripamania 1

2006-09-17 14:08:04 · 6 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6

2006-09-17 13:58:52 · 13 answers · asked by Eric Inri 6

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2006-09-17 13:39:28 · 2 answers · asked by PATRICK H 1

Already asked question in Other-Pregnancy & Parenting.

2006-09-17 12:24:36 · 8 answers · asked by Jessica A 1

If your hubby "made out" with another chick but didn't really have sex with her?? Myself and a friend are trying to solve this questions. She would dump him but i said that as long as he only "made out" and didn't really sleep with her then to forgive once but only once. If it happens again then dump him... What do you think??

2006-09-17 11:31:51 · 25 answers · asked by ? 5

2006-09-17 11:14:51 · 53 answers · asked by andy g 1

2006-09-17 09:33:14 · 10 answers · asked by Jay A 1

If you think about it logically it makes no sense, all they are telling girls to do is "film it" and then it's alright..... I mean that is all women who wanted to do "prostitution" would have to do.... I mean all they would have to do was film it and say that the money they were receiving was for the "porn pictures or movies"......

Just for the record I do not necessarily think it is wise for women to get into prostitution or pornography for that matter, but it should be their choice.
But here is another question ~ if there was no such thing as "pornography" do you think guys would be ejaculating to "little house on the prarie"? (MRS.E's big pantry)

paraphrase~ "the woman is the fairer of the species"- lex luthor

2006-09-17 09:31:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-17 08:15:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

...rap mostly speaks about unbelievable sexual acts that would be forced upon the unsuspecting women, and the horrible violence that women seem to charish, rapes and marital abuse. WHY?

2006-09-17 07:24:41 · 10 answers · asked by Broadsword 3

2006-09-17 06:42:13 · 13 answers · asked by ~Metalman Princess~ 1

Women only. I was discussing with my friends, that women seem to be becoming more, and more b**chy towards each other, more than ever before, i basically think 9 times out of 10 it's a jealousy thing...let me know what you think?......

2006-09-17 05:35:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-17 05:18:21 · 18 answers · asked by cdrfish7 1

2006-09-17 03:51:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I saw a question regarding spanking this morning. I am totally against spanking. but it got me to thinking about growing up in the 1960's when it was an acceptable form of punishment. I had to lay over a bed and get spanked on the bare behind with a belt. I am curious to know if there were others punished in this way, especially people over 40.

2006-09-17 02:22:01 · 12 answers · asked by JR 1