If your hubby "made out" with another chick but didn't really have sex with her?? Myself and a friend are trying to solve this questions. She would dump him but i said that as long as he only "made out" and didn't really sleep with her then to forgive once but only once. If it happens again then dump him... What do you think??
2006-09-17 11:31:51 · 25 answers · asked by ? 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes there are children involved...
it goes like this..
Her hubby was out one night and saw a chick and decided that he liked her as a friend first then started talking to her and then "made out" with her... he then told my friend she was too GUYISH and not GIRLY enough for him... and that was why he was attracted to the other woman... but since he has stopped seeing the other woman and has fessed up to everything and has been trying to make amends...
I just don't know what to tell her as far as what she should do.. cause i can't give her the answer she wants...
2006-09-17 11:55:20 · update #1
I understand there are children involved, but your friend doesn't have to be a martyr, depends what she wants to do, maybe she should give him a chance, and then if he does it again get rid of him, but to forgive him may just be opening the flood gate for him to think he has got away with it and will do it again.
Personally, I consider it to be cheating, if my partner even kissed another woman I would kick him to the curb. So OK maybe it was just a kiss, but is next time just going to be a bit of oral sex, then oh whoops he just accidentally had sex with her, it didn't mean anything, it was just sex!!! Seems like a very slippery slope to me, and your friend deserves more, she deserves a man to treat her well and not go out cheating on her while she is at home with the children.
My sister and her husband split after 25 years of marriage, and my nephew said he would rather see them apart and happy than together and miserable, I think that is very wise advice.
Get rid of him, I would say to her, you don't need that sort of c**p in your life.
2006-09-17 21:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by Migz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making out with another woman is cheating. The trust value of the relationship is in jeopardy. I would speak to my husband and find out what is going on and if it will happen again. Continued behavior like this would be cause for divorce.
2006-09-17 11:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by sewshawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question, it totally depends on the circumstances and if there are children involved.
I would probably try to work it out through counseling because my hubby and I have 3 children.
If it went further though, I would be outta here.
2006-09-17 11:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater....and plus your friend will always secretly wonder in the back of her mind if her hubby is really on a business trip or if he is shacked up in a motel with a women......dump his A.S.S.....yes easier said then done...but dont be a push over..once he knows you'll forgive him....he will do it again.,..and the second time you wont be able to dump him...i mean wouldnt you rather know now your husband was a cheater instead of like three years when your like really really really into him....make sense?
2006-09-17 11:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you he just kissed her, I'm sure they been banging for months and just now got caught. Leave the loser in the dust. Once a cheater, always a cheater, Beside that, The guy has no respect for you and will do it again and again
2006-09-17 11:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were married and my husband made out with some other woman, he would soon find his belongings packed in his car!!There would not even be a discussion to try to work things out.
2006-09-17 11:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug_jane22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really stupid? If he made out with her than it was totally sexual and he will go all the way, just because he did not go all the way next time.
But if you choose to enable his deviant behavior, then just get some popcorn and watch. Then shut you mouth and deal with it.
2006-09-17 11:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i agree if he is really sorry for what he did then he will not do it again. but made out was it allot of kissing or a little kiss. i would let him know that you will forgive but you will not forget. and if it happens again to pack his bags and leave. because if he does it again then he really doesn't love you. good luck
2006-09-17 11:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want to know why it happened. Why on earth if he has never done it before, would he do it now.
No, I would move on because it happened for a reason and unless that is solved, it WILL happen again.
2006-09-17 11:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by chris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce him like I did my previous husband. I stayed, tried to make it work, made him pay, tried to be understanding, but it was all crap. I made myself miserable, and him too. I know better now. He should never do it the first time!
2006-09-17 18:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by BJ H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋