Are we only defined by our roles as a wife, mother, lover? Do you feel constrained by these molds? If you could re-define yourself, what would you be?
2006-09-18 02:17:38 · 10 answers · asked by Optimistic 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Yes I don't have any children yet I'm asked all the time how many children do we have. I hate the fact that people ASSUME since you've been married 20+ years that you would have children. Also I don't conform with the right size and height ratio. I'm short and fat but I'm happy and to me that's all that should matter.
2006-09-18 02:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Marenight 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To answer your question, yes. I love being a wife, mother, etc but there is more than that in a person. I am also really bothered by society's expectation for how a female "must" look or dress.
If I could re-define myself I would be a great skateboarder. I know that may sound silly. When I was younger I loved to skateboard but I never "fit in" with the boys in my town that actually rode. I was pretty good too, to bad no one ever encouraged it or saw me ride. Instead I was pushed more towards music and dance. Something more suitable at the time for girls.
I am very proud that my daughter is different. She plays football and still can win any beauty pageant.
2006-09-18 02:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
All the time, and I hate it.
I feel like I'm supposed to fit the mold of society's image of beautiful.
I keep telling myself "If I only lost 10 pounds, then I'd be perfect."
I wish I could change the world and no one would be considered "ugly" or "beautiful." Everyone would be judged solely on personality and who they are as a human.
I know that's not exactley the answer you were looking for...
So here's the other... I'm going to school to be a pharmacist, and I'm a manager at a retail chain store. If I could redefine myself, I'd move out of New York state and be a person who "just gets by." I'd live everyday to the fullest with a crummy job. I'd work like I don't need the money, and I would stray from materialism, which is the key to "just getting by." Do you see what I'm saying?
I'm going to school to be a pharmacist to make big money, and I'm a manager to make more money than I would if I was just a regular employee- and I am STRESSED OUT! Point is, if I wasn't working toward making MONEY, then I could just get by and be happy.
2006-09-18 02:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not really I love all the things I am. I have never considered myself any one thing I am whoever and whatever I choose to be. My fiance says God broke the mold on me, I agree. I am no one thing, I am submissive and dominate, loving and hateful, caring and mean, I am gentle and aggressive, selfless and possessive, I am completely in control and without any control what so ever. I am a passionate lover, a loving friend, a business woman, a goofy girl, the possibilities are infinite, there is no one thing to define me I wont allow it!!
2006-09-18 08:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that we are treated worse now than we were in the 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s! It used to be that women were expected to marry have children and take care of those children and the home. But NOW we must fill that role AND the man’s. We are expected to be superwomen and have a body size like a very physically weak individual. We must be tiny and yet do more than our partners. And lets not forget the sexual demands at about the 3rd date. Not all people can keep up with these demands. It is worse now than it has been in decades. We think we have freedom but men are still calling us sluts if we sleep with them! That’s a double standard.
2006-09-18 02:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Females are pressured from birth to perform as a "female should".
From day 1 you have to fight for your rights. If you want to break out of the mold, then study hard in school, educate yourself to the best of your ability, learn all kinds of skills, sports, and whatever else that may interest you. Don't ever take No for an answer. Don't ever accept it when someone tells you that you can't do it because you're female.
Keep this in your mind: I am Woman, hear me roar!
2006-09-18 02:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Heck. I'm not a woman but I have 4 older sisters. I know for a fact that women are pressured to fit into a certain mold. Because men are ignorant a**holes that leave you no choice. That's why there are alot of bi-sexual and lesbian women out there today. They want freedom. But you can't live without dic* forever! hehe
2006-09-18 02:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes yes yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!
not even those feminine things, I get sick of being judged because I tend to be very strong and workout. It seems at though you have to be a skinny mini, with no real money and boy-crazy before you are taken seriously as a person.
I get so sick of it. And whats worse, because I tend to be athletic I have people questions my sexuality, I've had people wonder if I was gay or bi. It gets annoying.
2006-09-18 02:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not at all.I feel pressure to find the perfect man.
2006-09-18 06:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-09-18 02:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋