So I'm 17 and have had this amazing boyfriend for almost 9 months. Sometimes I think about having sex with him and other times I'm not sure. I'm self-concious about my body though but he and I have done a few things. He's turning 16 soon.
I think I might be in love with him but then again, I think that's silly. I am still a virgin (and so is he) and neither one of us is in a hurry.
We have talked about it and he says he will have sex if I want to. I think I do but I'm not sure yet.
Maybe I'm just nervous?
Also, should I talk to my mom about about me having sex? Should I go on birth control pills or what?
I'm 100% positive that he is a virgin and I am too, so there's no possibility for STDs or anything.
I truly care for him and I would like to have sex, but it always makes me feel a little scared.
Can anybody please help me?
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3 hours ago
First of all, thanks to everyone for helping me out. I have yet to pick a best answer.
UPDATE: I talked to my boyfriend last night about this and he said he wanted to wait until we've been going out for a least a year (which will be in May).
I think that's a great idea because neither one of us is 100% ready to just do it yet.
I was wondering however, should I go on birth control pills? And if I do, should he wear a condom anyways? I don't truly want to make him wear one for his very first time though, so my plan was to go on the pill so we could connect in the most intimate way possible, with no barriers.
Does Planned Parenthood give free birth control pills? I'm not sure on that and I'd like to know please.
Also, I AM SO FREAKED OUT about talking to my mom about this whole sex thing. I don't want her to flip even though I don't think she will. Her and I are pretty close so I think I'm just gonna tell her.
Please reply and thank you all so so so much for helping me.
2 hours ago
Also, my boyfriend told me that he will wait as long as I want to, to do anything. Neither one of us is in a hurry and we both know that.
We do a few things here and there, but it's never rushed and if I say I don't want to then he says ok.
I never feel rushed or pressured or embarrassed and he never even asks me to do anything.
Also, what are the side effects or health risks of going on birth control pills? Just curious.
thanks so much <3
2007-01-28
07:28:56
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