my boyfriend is 36 years old and im 21, he is a trustworthy men, really honest... sometimes too much, some months ago something was happening, relative often he was telling me stories about his exgirfriend .I though was normal but i didn`t like it so i told him, but the things just got worse, when we were talking about it he gave me more information that I really didn’t want to know. Actually i think i have to much information about her.for example she was virgin when she was 25, she has the same profession than him besides she is a chef, she is rational, smart, hard worker, mature and supposedly they have bad sex for the 5 years that they were together etc.... moreover he told me that she was his fantasy of a perfect relationship, the explanation that he gave for this was that he though was perfect but it wasn’t.. (I don’t know if really mean that) he told me that feel really proud of her in many ways... he said they are friends and his family love her, and her family love him and all of them keep in touch, i feel uncomfortable with the situation.
We have a good relationship for more than a year, great sex, also we are living together.
The real problem is He just told me that his family doesn’t know about me. He is still single for his family. Moreover some of his old good friends (the ones shared with ex girlfriend) have come to visit him, he went out with them alone and he didn’t tell to them that he has a relationship,
He’s a really nice guy who has made lots of good things for me but i hate feel like im not exist in the most important part of his life, good friend and family.
I don’t know if he doesn’t want that his ex girlfriend knows about us... of if it is me, I mean, I wasn’t virgin, im not a cheff and i don’t have any degree yet, in his words`` I don’t have a life yet`` .... Do i need that to he can share his life with me?.
Don’t get me wrong im smart, pretty and out going. The few of his friends that I know (the ones don’t shared with ex girlfriend) likes me a lot.
I’ve stopped my studies in my country just because i waned to travel abroad a bit...
I’ve also asked him how he feels about the different on ages, and he told me that he is ok with that... so I really don’t know what to think or what to do...maybe this relationship is not important enough?. Am I over reacting? What should I do?
2007-11-13
23:04:38
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