First off, I am not saying that people who have done this are wrong, I am just curious on what others think. I had an experience where my AFP levels were high, which points to the baby possibly having spina bifida (The spine didn’t fuse properly and as a result the baby is born with holes in his spine and/or back.) and doctors suggested I have an amnio. I refused to get an amnio and instead opted for an in-depth ultrasound. The ultrasound reveled that the baby was formed properly and looked normal. Because I had early bleeding and the ultrasound came back normal, the doctors said I really didn’t need the amnio and most likely the baby was fine. My question is, is it morally wrong to terminate a pregnancy just because there is a chance (be it 20% or a 90% chance) that the baby might not be “normal”? When I was going through my experience, I had to think long and hard and even though I have always dreamt of having a perfect little baby, I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t at least give him a chance at life. I didn’t do the amnio because there was a chance (even though it was small) of losing the baby after the amnio. On the other hand, what chance at life would he have if he was disabled? I am so torn and am just curious what people’s opinions are. I ended up giving birth @ 23 weeks and the baby did not survive. I have been racking my brain, trying to make sense of what happened (It was a PPROM) and at times I think that maybe my baby was going to be disabled and God was sparing me the heartache. Everything happens for a reason, right? But then I think, I wouldn’t care either way, he was my baby and I would have loved hi either way. Has anyone experience this before or been in a similar situation? And even if you haven’t, how do you feel about women aborting their baby because they were told the baby would be disabled or mentally ill?
2007-11-05
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