I posted a question a week or two ago about finding something outside of my spouse to make me happy. I got lots of good answeres-thankyou.
I am realizing as I read those and did some thinking, that I think I need my spouses approval all the time because I put all my value in my looks. I have always gotten LOTS of attention from men for my looks. From the time I was about 15. Now I am 38 and as I age and have put on some pounds, I still can get attention (looks, winks, hit on etc) but it is dwindeling and will continue to as I age I am sure. But I am realizing that is where I have always believed my value to be. The only positive things ever said to me were "your beautiful", oh, you have the pretty daughter" etc. Now, I am searching all over for my value as I loose my looks. Maybe it is why I am having a harder time with my spouse as he does not tell me often I look pretty. How does one let go of thinking their value is in one thing and they loose it and see value no where eles? Thanks
2007-06-03
03:19:12
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leahleah2004
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Marriage & Divorce