Is there anyone who deals with this sort of issue where their spouse feels like they don't get enough encouragement or you yourself need more encouragement. My husband used to be basically a loser, no job, smoking pot and drinking with his friends all the time. During his I put so much pressure on him and stood by his side through all this until things began to change. When we had a child and got married he has stepped up. He's working and has bought a house and is an involved father and did all of this at the age of 24. He frequently complains that I don't give him positive reinforcement or encouragement. I don't as much as I should, but he wants to hear things like "thank you for changing so much from what you used to be, thank you for buying me a nice house, thank you for being a good husband." I don't say those things to him. When I do talk about it I'll say "wow I can't believe the change and where we are nor compared to 3 years ago.
2006-11-03
02:38:07
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