My mother (a widow and christian, selfless lady) attends a weekly bible study group and one of the attendees (a lady of 79 who’s very timid) is going to have a hip replacement and will be in hospital over Christmas. The problem is my mother is so guilt ridden about not being there to help her out. This old lady does have a son of 45, but he’s, shall we say, a little backwards (not being rude, but that’s the best way to describe him). My mother and I are so looking forward to spending Christmas away together somewhere and now this has happened. I said to my mother, “Yes, but couldn’t the lady put her operation back ‘til after Christmas?” but this old lady is too timid to assert herself and now this old lady is worried about her son being alone on Christmas Day. My mother feels so, so terrible now and I don’t know how to reassure her. I really feel my own mother has been through enough in her life. I said to my mother, “I think you should start becoming a little more selfish”. Am I right to give her this advice? She replied, “Yes, but you must remember that she is in the same boat as us, we only have each other too”. What shall I tell her? She feels so down today. Sorry if this is so long-winded.
2006-11-29
21:56:28
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