In recent months, I have discovered that my [gay] partner of 5 years has a compulsive habit of buying porn, then lying about it.
Last night, I opened up a credit card statement and saw $300 in charges from a live sex website. He didn't lie this time, but I was still furious. We are in a huge financial crunch, and he was selfish enough to go blow that much money on porn when we are hardly making ends meet!
The issue here is not porn... it is lying, and deceit, and wasting our money. I just don't know if I can do this anymore.
The thought of ending things just makes me sick. We made a lifelong commitment to each other. And financially, this would break us. We just bought a house last May.
I look at couples who've been together 40 years. I tell myself this is not a big deal. I feel couples give up too easily. But I don't know how I can still trust or respect him.
He says he is going to get counseling for his lying. Can counseling help? Why does he make such stupid mistakes?
2006-09-26
09:17:18
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender