He lives 800 miles away and the next time I get to see him is in November! He is not able to call as he is not out to his Aunt and uncles which he is visiting with his parents on a 4 state car trip. How am I going to deal with out talking to him? What do you guys do when you are forced to not have contact with your loved ones?
I think I am going to go mad!
Help me deal with this please!
Any haters go ahead kick me while I am down. You will get massive doses of bad Karma from it so my revenge is already in place.
Or more commonly: Vengeance is mine saith the Lord.
2006-09-26 07:58:24 · 16 answers · asked by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The relatives he is staying with are all elderly and not into the internet. He is staying with them because they are family so no Hotel room. He said if he has some privacy he will try to call me on his phone card but he is not sure if that will happen. He is against cell phones so he would not appreciate one if I got him one. I will work on that when we move in together. LOL
2006-09-26 08:47:23 · update #1
I just want to think you guys for the mental hug. I really needed it and my guy felt it too because he just called me. He found a few minutes while his Aunt went out to teach a piano class to use his phone card. He is traveling wiht his parents who he is out to but not to his extended family and that is not something you do on a family visit like he is on. He is visiting a relative that is dieng and why would he want to make this about him when it is about her. He is going to come out when we start living together. But now is not the time. It is hard to come out when you are 45. Lot of family wont understand and will be more hurt especially when you have lived in a marriage as he has. He is a widower.
But thanks guys for the suggestions they will help me get through the next 11 days.
2006-09-26 12:22:24 · update #2
Like mentioned before ... keep busy and try not to think about it too much. No sense in worrying yourself sick. If at all possible, see if he can check in with you from a payphone or restaurant ... God knows they need to eat. Have him call collect if that is easier. Just remember that you will see him soon enough .... there are many families who have loved ones over seas who go months and months without contact.
Also, try keeping a log of certain major things that have happened or good news. It will give you guys time to bond more .... of course, share this after you both have sweated each other to death in bed *wink *wink !!!!
Keep peace in your mind and love in your heart
2006-09-26 08:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by spartexcites 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My partner of ten years is kind of in the same situation. I don't dare call her on her cell while she's out visiting with her family.
I also couldn't email or IM her since she didn't have her own computer with her, she had to use her parents. An email showing up from me while she was there would be bad for her.
So, I keep myself occupied with other things. I contact friends and my own family.
I'm very much out to my family and they're very supportive and loving. But my partner is only out to her mother, who has also requested that she never come out to the rest of her family.
So, whenever she goes to visit, I try to stay occupied. I keep busy.
With a teenage son and being an artist, it's really not that hard to do. But I do still worry while she's away.
I want her to be safe and pray that maybe during one of these trips she might find a spine and actually just come out to her father and brother.
I know it probably never will happen, but I can dream!
2006-09-26 16:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Randy it is never easy. been there done that with partners in the military. It is and never will be easy. Like I said before time to buy him a cell phone. In the mean time say busy. Do stuff that requires your attention. Stay busy at work, go out with friends you can even write to him. Let him see the journal as he returns.
The old saying absence make the heart grow fonder. By the end of your 12 day you will see exactly what he means to you.
If all else fails answer Stale Poots questions or translate the bible
2006-09-26 15:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for what you're going thru. Sucks like a big dog. Uumm...just relax and cheat on him, big deal.
LOL, just kidding!!
Do everything that reminds you of him, go everywhere you two have gone together. And as far as going mad, take a friggin chill pill. This is a temporary trip, the relationship is not ending. But this does sound alittle odd, if he really loves you, than he would have no trouble making contact with you, regardless of family. Dating closet guys must really blow.
2006-09-26 17:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by wen02kroy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine went to Toronto last week to visit some elderly relatives that he may be seeing for the last time..I elected not to go..we've been together for 20 years..so I'm on my own here as well...but he's coming back friday and we're going to maui on saturday...so should be ok....I just put the time in doing odd jobs around the place that I've been meaning to do for a long time but never got around to....other than that I go to bed early and get up early and life is really boring....today's my partners big 6-0 and he's freaked (I never thought he would--and he sure doesn't look it)...but anyway as I said I'm taking him to Maui on Saturday so..generally I keep busy and keep looking forward to something.....am I rambling enough yet?LOL
2006-09-26 15:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in an off-again on-again LDR with my wife, as you may know, for over a decade. Twelve days without contact was very unusual for us. Couldn't he e-mail or IM? Do they have internet access? Maybe if he's staying at a hotel, he could use a laptop or the business center. Try e-mailing him.
Aside from that, do the stuff you would if he wasn't around. Don't try forcing yourself not to think of him--that'll bring him to the forefront. Count off the days. Find something else to make you smile.
And call him right at the end of that trip!!!!
2006-09-26 15:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A) there are Internet cafes everywhere, even in small bergs.
B) I don't care how much he is against Cell Phone, he can use a phone card while he is away, or buy him one with prepaid minutes on it...once a day should be enough talk.
C) Why can't he call you...they have phones, even where he is at...use a calling card..big deal.
2006-09-26 16:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he will find a pay phone and give you a call. In the mean time, find something else to do. Get a hobby, read a book, go out with your friends that you haven't seen for a while. Renew other relationships. Work, play and dream of him. Pray, even.
2006-09-26 15:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bibi B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say why did you not get a phone card, at least he can call you once in a while.... Or maybe he will..... I think you should do something fun and outrageous while he is gone... Like join a new gym, kick boxing, yoga.... Start something new and healthy..... Something for your self..... You know once he returns you will be soooo happy and excited.... Plan something fun for when he returns.....
2006-09-26 15:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by mylife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You immerse yourself in Yahoo! Answers and in the college of friends you've made here. It won't breach the sense of loss - but it'll fill in the time.
Besides, how much more will you treasure the next time you two do speak? Think on how wonderful that'll be...Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
E-mail me whenever
2006-09-26 15:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋