2006-09-26 08:18:45 · 16 answers · asked by robertapdixon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi to males in general or hi to males you like?
For the first, just say hi to every guy you see until you realize the world won't end.
For the second, go to a gay bar and watch and learn.
2006-09-26 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Steve M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are in a place for gay males and not just anybody before approaching a guy this way. You are smart to be scared to approach random males, most are straight and won't appreciate it.
It helps if you live in a large city, especially a cultural center like San Fransisco. Large cities have lots of organizations that are not necessarily gay but still a great way to meet people. For example city public theaters, choirs, and clubs. As long as you stick with secular stuff (not church groups) you will meet a lot of nice people, some will be gay and some won't but your straight friends can hook you up sometimes and are still fun to hang with.
If you live in a small town with no culture and can't move, try an on line dating service. Make an informative page about yourself that others can see.
You could try to make it a little more obvious you're gay and single, that way other men will be more likely to approach you. I don't know you so that may sound like sarcasm but don't be afraid to discuss your woes of being a single gay guy with your female friends where others can hear.
2006-09-26 15:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have stuggled with this for such a long time. I get so ..... I guess shy. If they are really hot then I just can't do it at all. If I am not that attracted to them then I can talk to them. Boy, that sounds vain. But that is the way it is.
Not suggesting this, but I have been using my own mixture of vodka and soda to help me out and I have really been friendly lately!!! Only in bars or clubs, not work or anything.
It could also be that you might not be comfortable with men maybe judging you by your sexuality. I do the whole "cover up" thing when I am around straight guys, just to prevent any negativity.
Hope this at least lets you know that you are not the only one with this problem. And again, I did not suggest the vodka/soda mixture to you. If you do that it is all you!!!! hahaha good luck and....... HI!!
2006-09-26 15:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same exact reason straight males find it hard to talk to woman. You have the fear of being founded out and rejected by this mail. You also must fear the anticipation of being accepted, adored and loved. It's normal to feel this way and a good trait in a man. Once you do find a lover, you will remain forever faithful because you fear to flirt :)
2006-09-26 15:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would suggest getting online. Go to a gay chat line and sign up. Talking online is a lot easier. This will help you learn to talk to people some. It will allow you to move from online chat to maybe a telephone chat and maybe to an in-person meeting and talking to them. This might help you ease into the situation at your own speed.
The key to talking to anyone is build a repore with them. The easiest way to do this it to get them talking about themselves. Usually once that is done it all easy. Start off saying hello and compliment them on something. Or ask them where they bought a certain piece of clothing. This open up the conversation nicely.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 15:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of gay men are introverted... for a number of reasons... just be yourself and put yourself into a situation like a 'gay bar' and be *nice* to everyone - even people who you are not attracted to... just give those who you are interested in a great smile to wake up their interests. Remember we are all in this together!
2006-09-26 16:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by guicoder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Atlanta or LA or SanFrancisco. Go to gay chatrooms. It's
not hard these days to find other gay men
2006-09-26 15:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider making some friends near to home on the net, where you are less shy. Tell them you want to meet eventually but that you are very shy and scared. When you are ready, tell them you want to see them for real, and where to meet. Get up all your courage and go to the place and wait for them -- make it public, like a mall.
Once you get started it is easier than you might think.
*hug*
Reyn
2006-09-26 16:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if you really are gay.
You may think you are but you are not. Do not let an aattraction to a man make you think that you are gay.
If that were so then we will all be gay.
Maybe you also need to surround yourself with peple that you know for a fact are gay.
2006-09-26 15:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time talking to guys because there is a part of me that just doesn't want to go through having to tell them I don't want them.
2006-09-26 15:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋