Singles & Dating - 5 September 2006

I've dated an almost perfect girl for 3 years: brilliant, successful, charming... but she's about 100 pounds overweight. She's naturally very pretty; I wouldn't mind if she slimmed down (she'd be a total fox), but she's still quite attractive.

However, at least 25% of the time we go out, someone shouts something mindbogglingly rude at her. "Fat people suck!" "Look at the size of that b****," that sort of thing. It doesn't seem to faze her, but I get very pissed off... and, I'm embarrassed to say, ashamed to be seen with her. I'd rather not go out in public with her anymore... odds are good that she'll be teased and I'll look like a terrible boyfriend for not rushing into a crowd of teenagers and decking one of them.

I've tried dieting and exercising with her, encouraging her gently, everything a caring boyfriend can do, but I know it's up to her. Am I a horrible person for feeling like this? What else can I do but accept that I'm head-over-heels for a girl that people ridicule?

2006-09-05 05:49:58 · 65 answers · asked by rundammitrun 1

For months I have feelings that my boyfriend is messing around but really can prove anything physically, but mentally and emotionaly is feel it. I have a 2 year old son with this person and I'm also 5mths pregnant. His job has sent him to Maryland to do work out there. Now when I'm getting his things together to go back I find a disposible camera, should I get the film developed or put it back where I found it and if he is effin' around it will come out sooner or later. What the hell should I do. By the way we've been together for almost 6years so this is not a new relationship. GUYS and Gal welcome to answer.

2006-09-05 05:49:28 · 14 answers · asked by AriTyII 1

Im in a long distance relationship. My boyfriends cell got turned off because he didnt pay the bill. He said he would call as soon as his cell got turned back on. Its been about 2 weeks. During this time I would call his cell (knowing it was off) just cause it was habit to call him when i got to work and when i got off from work. Well today I called knowing it was off; to my suprise he f***ng answered!!! I hit the mute button on my work phone so he wouldnt hear anything. Im a bit sure that he knew it was me because im the only one that calls him early in the morning and restricted and by the way he answered "hey" im sure he knows it was me. Now im a bit upset because why didnt he call me when his phone got turned back on?? He said he would. Now i dont now if i should like casually call him and pretend like nothing happend or if i should wait for him to call me (if he ever calls me). HELP!!!!

2006-09-05 05:49:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-05 05:48:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

intimate with each other, we spend every weekend together, could it be just sex or hes not ready for a commitment?

2006-09-05 05:48:47 · 12 answers · asked by vava 1

do you have a

A) excuse
B) justifaction

2006-09-05 05:47:02 · 15 answers · asked by Piffle 4

She invites herslef to our dates. She text's him on his phone. And when I want to do something special for him she does too. Like his birthday or she cooks for him. He doesn't see anything wrong with that!!! What to do?

2006-09-05 05:45:47 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been together a month, we were supposed to move-in together, we got into a fight Sunday, and sort of broke up. lol (sort of) We're talking tonight, basically, I just dont know when to shutup and pushed him too far...how do you apologize for running your mouth and get him to take you back?

2006-09-05 05:45:15 · 27 answers · asked by sglmom79 2

2006-09-05 05:42:19 · 22 answers · asked by LiL MaMa 2

2006-09-05 05:41:56 · 6 answers · asked by Shadow 1

I met this guy several times at a local college, this past weekend there was a party and i saw him there. He and i had talked previously about how we were excited to see eachother. Anyways, whenever i got there, he seemed to be flirting with my friend!! My friend dresses kind of whorish and always wants attention. I was jealous, but by the end of the night he focused his attention on me. I ended up staying with him, but we didnt sleep together, just the minor stuff. He had told me he had decided to stop sleeping around so much. His friends told me he really was stopping. Well the next morning i left, anyways i feel like he thought i just wanted a fling. I told him i wouldnt have stayed with him if thats what i wanted. He says he feels bad for messing around at all if hes trying to change. He told me hes just unsure about what he wants and is concerned with the distance. We dont live far away at all tho! He wants time to think. What is he really thinking!?

2006-09-05 05:37:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

he's still in love with his xgf, but he recently found out that his xgf is getting married to someone else. but the thing is both of them have still feelings for each other. i really love this guy but i don't know what to do anymore. should i just try to get over him? or wait till he gets over the girl then i come into his life? please advice...

2006-09-05 05:35:44 · 9 answers · asked by cutiefannick 1

you?

2006-09-05 05:35:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 14 and I like a guy who is 16. a month before school started we talked everyday on myspace. then we hung out a couple times. it was obvious we both liked each other alot. we madeout a couple times (just kissing) & everything seemed to be great. the night before school started he asked me to be his gf. but later that night he said he thought maybe he had made a decision to soon & we should hang out a few more times. i was like "ok". we kept talking on myspace & we hung out once more. i could tell he really liked me. but after that he told me he felt really bad but he thought i was too young & he didn't feel right & we should just be friends. he also said he felt wierd around my brother (who is also a junior). they know each other but arn't good friends. i am so hurt. i have had friends tell me he still likes me but i don't know if its true. i think he is embarrassed because all his friends have gf who are the same age. how can i help him get over this fear so we can be together?

2006-09-05 05:33:30 · 12 answers · asked by cheergirl 1

I broke it off with a guy that I have been seeing and after i said bye he said nothing back to me no good bye nothing.

Why didn't he say goodbye back to me?

2006-09-05 05:32:33 · 16 answers · asked by creole_leo79 1

I want to tell my boyfriend, I love you, but I want to do it in a way that he will remember years down the road. Any suggestions?

2006-09-05 05:31:51 · 5 answers · asked by aimeelopez 2

2006-09-05 05:31:25 · 13 answers · asked by ketan.s 1

2006-09-05 05:29:40 · 12 answers · asked by xxx 4

He cheated on me oce, and now he swears never to do it again, but I can't let go, and I'm suspicious about every little things, I even imagine him cheating when I can't locate him. Is this normal, or am I losing it? I don't trust him now. How do I gain control of myself.

2006-09-05 05:29:25 · 10 answers · asked by molly 1

2006-09-05 05:29:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

in some movies the girl makes out with her moms boyfriend or new husband have u done this and how did u feel did he force u and did u actually do it
"details please"

2006-09-05 05:29:12 · 14 answers · asked by talk2me_923 1

My boyfriend and I have been dating for four and half months and while I know that's not a long time, I feel the urge to say those words (I haven't yet) and we've talked about it but he still says eventually. Is it too soon? I don't want to scare him away.

2006-09-05 05:27:37 · 22 answers · asked by Cathy 4

I'm looking for signs & criteria so that I can not waste any more time than is necessary with women that aren't going to work out for me.
I have a few ideas, but please add your own & comment on mine.
-Kids with a bad ex
-Certain manifestations of feminism
-In a job that she hates with no plan for improvement
-Kids with multiple men
-A highly messed-up family
-Few, weak friendships with other women

2006-09-05 05:25:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is these guy that i love,at first he abided by my rules, that is no kisses and no sex,but of recent,he now asks for kisses and i m scared and want to brake up please someone should help me....

2006-09-05 05:25:35 · 42 answers · asked by adaora r 1

If you're going to be a smartass, at least make sure you know enough about the culture. You don't want to make yourself look like an idiot.

2006-09-05 05:24:15 · 9 answers · asked by batman 1

2006-09-05 05:23:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I just recently started dating. Since we're both church-goers, we know that there will be no sex until marriage. What my boyfriend doesn't know is that I have absolutely no interest in sex and would prefer a sexless marriage. My idea of a husband is more of a best friend than a sexual partner. After how many months of dating will it be appropriate to tell him this? I don't want to randomly talk about sex before we're close enough, but I don't want us to be too close that (assuming he'd back off) breaking up would hurt too much.

Also, assuming he didn't back off even after I told him this, would it be fair for him to never know what sex is like?

2006-09-05 05:21:16 · 9 answers · asked by goody2shoes 1

2006-09-05 05:19:56 · 27 answers · asked by russellhamuk 3

Even if she's looking gorgeous, fabulous and sexy...

2006-09-05 05:19:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my girlfriend broke up and i love her and i cant get her back and i dont wanna move on would u get high to stay happy ...........ps im high rite now so my question probably dont make sense

2006-09-05 05:18:31 · 9 answers · asked by rm38358 1