We've been together a month, we were supposed to move-in together, we got into a fight Sunday, and sort of broke up. lol (sort of) We're talking tonight, basically, I just dont know when to shutup and pushed him too far...how do you apologize for running your mouth and get him to take you back?
2006-09-05 05:45:15 · 27 answers · asked by sglmom79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't apologize.
Just listen to what he has to say and forget about moving in together.
You aren't ready...
2006-09-05 05:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok u been together for a month??? obviously this is happening too quick don't u think??? If ur asking us what is it that ur supposed to do? that doesn't that tell u something. You don't even know each other that much, so do u think that every time u guys have a problem some one else is going to help u out??? well best thing for me to say is that u guys need to step it down a notch... take time to know each other more. This will help u in the future. U can't just be on and off for the rest of ur life. Just kick back a little and let him know what type of attitude u got. Tell him that u will control ur anger and think before u say things. This might just help u in the long run...
2006-09-05 12:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, Girlfriend, just what kind of relationship are you trying to have with this man cuz if it's long term, sex at this point ain't enough. You can give him a bj all day long until his thang fall off. You can let him "blow it in your face", too and he still won't stay!!! You say you talk to much? I say you're full of fear. Stop letting fear speak for you. You're worth more than desperation! Moving in after one month of meeting? Way too soon!! You don't move in because you had some good sex! Even the dingaling don't stay hard for a month cuz it knows sex ain't enough when the lights come on and you have to get to know each other! Ask yourself if this ain't just a booty call that you're trying to turn into something deeper. Sounds like it is and the old boy got the draws and is headed for the high ground (or the next ground)!
2006-09-05 13:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by meillee44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, Ha, I had the same problem. When the two of you talk tonight tell him that its your fault, and admit to him that your reaction to whatever the two of you were talking about made or makes (depending on how many times you guys have had a disagreement) you react in a defensive way and by doing that you say things you really don't mean. Say you are very sorry and from here on out if he really likes you and will be willing to work with you, then you will do the same, work together as a team, that's what relationships are all about. Bite you tongue!
2006-09-05 12:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together after being together only a month? How much do you really know about his past, including his criminal history? Don't take his words for what occurred in his past; do you think he will really admit he was guilty? Luckily, in my state, we have a court system website that shows ALL of a person's civil and criminal history while in that state.
If he blames you or you blame yourself, why is he not admitting to part of the problem(s)? It is not all YOU!
Regarding pushing him too far, actions are a CHOICE. People react to things by choice.
I would not want him back. Truthfully he sounds like a young loser.
You both just sound very young. Think about things before you make a move that you will regret.
2006-09-05 12:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by dawnsakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sorry for how you are or what you say. Someone that is right will understand.
Being together for a month isn't much of a commitment and is hardly enough time to get to know someone. Moving in together especially early in the relationship like that is a bad bad bad idea.
2006-09-05 12:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this: "I know we fought (or enter whatever happened badly here), and I'm sorry about that. I'd like to be with you, of course, but I'd like to leave it in your court because I can handle whatever you decide to do". If you are usually the annoying one who pushes too far, than you have to counteract that and make him realize you're normal and have your head on straight-that you're not a whiney, needy, crazy girlfriend. Act like you don't really care either way. He'll either: A) Beg you to come back to him or B) think he got the easy way out and break up for good. Either way, you'll know what he wants. Would you want him to get back together with you even if he didn't want to just because you tricked him somehow? That's just a disaster waiting to happen. Prove your normal by handling whatever he decides to do with dignity and confidence. KNOW in your heart that you'll be wonderful with our without him and he'll sense that and make his decision accordingly. Give him enough rope to choke on it, the old saying goes. Give him space, freedom; let him decide on his own while you are being your normal, wonderful self. Good luck!
2006-09-05 12:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by missy s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be moving in with anyone after being with them only a month. But your gonna do what your gonna do so I would do what I would do. Say just what you said here. You have a big mouth that gets you into trouble and you just don't know when to shut up sometimes and that your sorry. Bunt, honest and to the point.
2006-09-05 12:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by wiazardofoz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break up after ONE fight then you are not ready to move in together. Don't even 'try to get him back', just keep being his friend and going on dates. When you can have fights without breaking up then you may want to move in together.
You shouldn't try to get anyone to take you back. If they like you they will just do it. If they don't do it then just move on it's not worth being with someone if they cant respect you enough to take all you are into their heart.
If you have a problem running your mouth though then thats something you will need to try to deal with yourself as another subject.
2006-09-05 12:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say your sorry & try talking less. If it doesn’t workout be ready to move on. You’ve only invested a month in the relationship so better now than later & just try to learn from it if it doesn’t workout. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Scalawag-101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doing it right now girl, just not to the right ears. Tell him that you are sorry and explain yourself a little, everybody makes mistakes. If he really cares, he will not only except your explanation, but also appreciate the fact that you can admit when your wrong. Now go get your man back girl..............
2006-09-05 12:53:54 · answer #11 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋