Other - Family & Relationships - 28 July 2007

I had 3 broken marriages.
my mom died of cardiac arrest after learning of dad's infidelity. afterwhich, my 1st marriage went stormy. then 2 more came after. causes? my over-possessiveness & jealousy. it's difficult for me to trust. mom's fate keeps floating on my mind.
i don't work things out; i run or push the man away- my defense mechanism. bcoz i don't wanna get hurt. yet, i do all d time, everytime.

2007-07-28 20:44:31 · 7 answers · asked by wildflower 1

i used to be IN LOVE my best friend.
now i hate him for letting me love him.
i hate him because i can never be with him.
i hate him for being too old.
i hate him for it all.
i want to be with him more than i want to be with my boyfriend.
but every time i talk to my best friend, i chicken out or i have a mood swing and turn into a total b*tch.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!?!?!

last week i heard a song on the radio that my best friend let me listen to on his MP3 when we first met, and it made me feel so great when i heard it for the first time.
when i heard it on the radio, i started crying.
and i was on the phone with my boyfriend, and he was wondering why i was crying.
so i blamed it on something my boyfriend's dumb friend said to me earlier.
and then i got even more upset for lying!

i no longer talk to my best friend, because i can't handle it.
i'm so screwed up right now.
i feel so depressed.

2007-07-28 20:41:18 · 4 answers · asked by Jane Doe 6

Do girls prefer guys with pubic hair or without pubic hair, down there?

2007-07-28 20:41:03 · 7 answers · asked by TOP CONTRIBUTOR - FEMALE ORGASMS 1

2007-07-28 20:14:09 · 2 answers · asked by dvcgurl 7

Weds. is my bosses b-day. She's not just any boss she's like a second mom to me. (I'm only 17 and work at a daycare, which I went to as a child.) She has plenty of money so she pretty much gets herself everything she needs and more. I need some ideas for a gift. Thank for your help!

2007-07-28 20:12:49 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

of your kids? and there scared of there father just asking

2007-07-28 20:07:00 · 3 answers · asked by dvcgurl 7

Is it your home life, pressures from peers, or what? Help me understand. Thanks.

2007-07-28 19:50:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

So a little kid is following me and my friends.
he lives next door but is a relative and ALWAYS wants to play with him.
we have like for a day but its not exactly fun to hang with a 4 year old.
so we tried ignoring him but he keeps talking and wont stop.
and if we like tell him to just go away he'll cry and cry and sorta get us in trouble
so what we need to do is make him just leave us alone.
help?
He's 4 and a boy.

2007-07-28 19:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by Wide-Eyed 1

2007-07-28 18:33:21 · 10 answers · asked by danieloholic 6

hi i am going away for a week and my Aunt is going to be coming to my house everyday to feed my cat. My cousin is probably going to be with her and i really do not want him in my room without me there. (i dont want him to see all of my stuff) what should i do. (my cousin and i have a weird realationship)

2007-07-28 18:31:01 · 8 answers · asked by some guy 1

2007-07-28 18:28:27 · 7 answers · asked by kay-kay 1

At present, the Family Court plunders the hearts and souls of men and pushes them to the abyss; and often, then some. Was there ever a time when injustice was so well lubricated by a woman's tears?
Fashion is so ubiquitous. But who would of thought that its vagaries could frolic with quintessential virtues of the human spirit as justice and truth. Particularly, in the forum of our own venerable Family Court.
The current fashion in the Family Court is for a man to be met with the ex-partner's sworn affidavits, prepared by lawyers portraying him as a depraved and violent beast who is a danger to both the ex-partner and the children.

One of the common, coolest and effective approaches at separation is to enrage and upset the male partner by totally denying him contact to the children prior to issuing the Court proceedings. The payoff really comes in if he then becomes emotionally distraught so as to behave in a self-destructive manner, as this can really zestify an affidavit.

It is also very chic at this time to obtain a restraining order. With a bit of luck, the bonus of getting the police directly involved will soon present itself. This is often achieved by the woman hinting that contact to the children, a reconciliation or even sex, are a possibility, this will usually lure the big dope into the Restraining Order Forbidden Zone.(ROFZ)

Once the man is, by his mere presence, in a breach of the restraining order (and the woman has ensured that her fridge is stocked with his grog),then….the piece de resistance; the woman engineers an argument and calls the police. If all has gone well, the police will find a half drunk, emotional guy ready to redefine the term "idiocy".

If he then be hand cuffed, oh so tightly, dragged away and charged with breach of a restraining order, offensive language, resist arrest and even the "biggie", assault police, then the woman is superbly poised to be showered with such attention and accolades at the next talk-fest of the shrivelled hearts club so as to warm the very cockles of her ego.

Even if the male protests that he was invited to the home by the woman, are to be believed, the criminal charge will stand. The woman will not be prosecuted for aiding and abetting the breach; to do so would be so distastefully gauche!

But... back to the Family Court. The congenial manner in which the Family Court accommodates the machinations of deceitful and vindictive women is a marvel to behold. The Court so often displays psychological acumen equivalent to caving in to a child chucking a tantrum over a Freddo Frog at the local Woolies checkout.

One of the common ways in which the Family Court validates its bias against men is by deciding cases on the basis: that to accede to the whims and convenience of the woman makes for a happy mother who makes for happy children ... cute isn't it.

In contrast, the man appearing in the Family Court usually responds in a sullen or angry manner or bleeds stoically from the heart, either way presenting no problems for his clinical disposal by a judge whose sense of chivalry has been thrust into hyperdrive by the womans's perfumed and tear stained affidavits before the Court.

The Family Court is an expensive failure. It's "head" centred structure is abjectly useless at dealing with the children in adult bodies that have cusody and access disputes before it. The Court also mostly sees couples only after they have mortally slashed at each other and gangrene has set in. Furthermore, at present, Family Court orders are flouted with impunity and the enforcement procedure, which is left to be carried out by the aggrieved party, is asinine and toothless.

Separation is the critical stage that should be regulated. An application to separate made to an enlightened body presided over by persons who have courage and justice in their souls, and love and understanding in their hearts, would go far in stemming the tide of acrimony which courses from the Faily Court into the community. This Tribunal would not use affidavits as evidence but would have the guts and also the heart to see and hear the parties at first hand.

At such a "Separation Tribunal" the parties would also be supported by persons skilled in handling emotional pain and who do not have a vested financial interest in scavenging amongst the emotional carcasses of failed relationships.

A procedure whereby failures to comply with orders of the "Separation Tribunal" were prosecuted by police, would not only gain genuine respect for the Tribunal it would also immediately abate the pandering to deceit and vindictiveness by those currently making a career out of it.

At present, the Family Court plunders the hearts and souls of men and pushes them to the abyss; and often, then some. Was there ever a time when injustice was so well lubricated by a woman's tears?

Brendan Harradine

PS: The difference between family Court lawyers and Lions; is that Lions love to feed on carcasses ....

2007-07-28 17:34:17 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-28 17:27:30 · 20 answers · asked by Katie 6

My husband of 12 years revealed to me a few years back that he has fantasies of me with other men. He says he'd never want to act on it like really invite a guy or two over to be with me, it just turns him on to think of me with other strange men. Have any of you guys ever fantasized like that about your significant other?

Okay, I never said my husband wants to share me with other men. He would never allow that and neither would I. I said that it's in his fantasies to invision me with other strange men

2007-07-28 16:22:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am looking for Daniel Paul Scales. He lives or lived with T. Scales and/or Jack E. Scales. He is 33 yrs old and his birthday is in Spetember. He used to live in Landover, MD. According to zabasearch.com his last known address is W Forest Rd Hyattsville, MD. But it is not current and the numbers listed and what I had for him are all disconnected. If anyone knows him please get in touch with me. Let him know my name starts with a V and I was the love of his life and I am looking for him. Please email me so I can give you my number so he can call me or you can give me his. Either way.
thanks. Please help me find him.

2007-07-28 16:20:07 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-28 15:06:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why am I still paying money to social security out of my paycheck when it won't be around to actually pay for me when I retire. You all know it's gone in 20 years right?
The money that's been spent in the War (BILLIONS) could have kept us all more secure!

2007-07-28 14:51:05 · 8 answers · asked by floridacrain 4

I mean things can get a bit racy on old Yahoo...not sure I'd want my child reading about bj's in the back of a car...

2007-07-28 14:50:17 · 11 answers · asked by Janey 6

what would you do if you got into a fight with ur boyfriend and he gave you a really bad titty twister? would you do anything to him?

2007-07-28 14:27:57 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

is there anyway to ask God that I am tired of this life?

2007-07-28 14:02:51 · 3 answers · asked by Melancholy 1

What is wrong with me? He's never done actually hurt me before, just broke things, I can barely move my right arm.

2007-07-28 14:01:55 · 25 answers · asked by Candy H 2

I'm a junior in college (20 years old), and just trying to figure out where I want to live. I went to college about 3 hours away from home, so I'm used to being away from close family. Ever since I was little I have always wanted to live in a city. Originally I'm from a very very small town. Part of me wants to have the small town life, living close to my family etc. My boyfriend doesn't really want to live in a city, and wants to stay close to his family. The other part of me wants to move to a big city and work. I don't want to live a single and independent life the rest of my life at all and i want to have a family, but I want to make a big difference and work in a big city too. What would you suggest doing at this point in my life?

2007-07-28 13:21:40 · 6 answers · asked by Consultant 1

my boyfriends birthday is august 4th but i need to buy him a gift fast but i dont know what to get him he wears a lot of abercrombie and he golfs does soccer and does hockey what should i get him hes turning 13

2007-07-28 13:20:15 · 4 answers · asked by BRITTA S 1

2007-07-28 13:07:44 · 20 answers · asked by Natalia 4

and when she is don eating them she kisses me and her breath smells good. is that wierd to think her breath smells good

2007-07-28 12:45:25 · 2 answers · asked by eMan 1

we love God unconditionally.

2007-07-28 12:20:56 · 2 answers · asked by Hamba Allah 1

like i dunno..childhood things or adult things.
10 points 4 the funniest,,,or the mmost embarasing..

ooooooooh wth..10 points 4 the best
:)
xxx

2007-07-28 11:52:27 · 2 answers · asked by jedipie_hannahpie 2

I've heard people say this before. What does it mean to be someone's cousin twice removed?

2007-07-28 11:26:58 · 8 answers · asked by Crisseye 2

I'm trying to think of something good to do for my sisters birthday.

2007-07-28 11:11:58 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah 2

I dont know how it can be wrong if this is how your heart feels. I am married, love my husband..i am so grateful to have him. I also have a close guy friend who is married, and has a wonderful family. What I dont have with my husband, I have with my friend. I can talk to my friend about life, love, many other topics..i feel he is close enough to me so I get a lot from his friendship. I don't have this kind of relationship with my husband. He gives me where my husband lacks. But I started to have feelings for him. and maybe he has for me...i know to a certain point it is more than friendship, a lot like love. but..how can it be wrong when this is how i feel? how can it be wrong when he is not like other guys..where he doesnt want to take advantage of me, even when had every single opportunity. When he wants me to be happy with my family. How can you not feel for someone like that. I can go on w life wit

2007-07-28 07:03:41 · 11 answers · asked by showmelight17 1