I'm a junior in college (20 years old), and just trying to figure out where I want to live. I went to college about 3 hours away from home, so I'm used to being away from close family. Ever since I was little I have always wanted to live in a city. Originally I'm from a very very small town. Part of me wants to have the small town life, living close to my family etc. My boyfriend doesn't really want to live in a city, and wants to stay close to his family. The other part of me wants to move to a big city and work. I don't want to live a single and independent life the rest of my life at all and i want to have a family, but I want to make a big difference and work in a big city too. What would you suggest doing at this point in my life?
2007-07-28 13:21:40 · 6 answers · asked by Consultant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly, there are some people that yearn to live in a big city. I think you are one of those people. You need to get that out of your system, or later on in life you'll go crazy and feel like you missed out on something.
You could try it for a few years after you graduate, see if you really like it or not. There are some fabulous, fabulous things about living in a city. But maybe it won't be for you once you decide to settle down and have kids, and you'll start craving the small town thing again.
Nothing is permanent. You are young. You need to follow your gut instinct and do what feels right for YOU.
2007-07-28 13:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, that's what the suburbs are for. I live in a suburb of Cleveland, OH, and I love it. I'm a 13 minute commute from the center of downtown via a major interstate, or about 45-60 minutes away via public transportation. So I have all the conveniences of living in a decent sized city with the comfort of a nice, quiet neighborhood where I can leave my doors open for an evening breeze without feeling like I'm gonna get robbed blind. I go to school about 4 hours away in what is the middle of nowhere for what I came from, and I pretty much hate the country-life. I mean, it's slow and safe and all that, but there's only 3 movie theaters in a 20 mile radius, one skating rink and one bowling alley and 21 bars. I've also lived in the city proper of a decent sized city as well. So now I know that I'm for the 'burbs, because I've experienced them all, and that's really the only way to find out what's right for you. I would suggest getting an internship or going to grad school in a city; you'll be there for a couple months to a couple years, which should be long enough to tell you if you really want to live like that. But you're young; you have plenty of time to change your mind about where you want to live. Your opinions will probably change once you actually start a family, anyway, whichever you choose.
2007-07-28 21:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Amber L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young enough that you can change your mind several times over about where you want to live and what you want to do. Go with the feeling in your gut... If your gut tells you to go to the city then do it! you will always have your family to fall back on if things don't work out... Just make sure you always have enough money to get home when you need to and you will be fine! City life is different, you may love it you may hate it, but you will never know if you don't try it! You may decide you would like to travel and see the world... This I would highly recommend, get out of your comfort zone and see how other people live, Don't miss the opportunity when it comes because there is nothing worse than the feeling of regret or wondering what if all your life. Good luck to you.
2007-07-28 20:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason at all that you can't work in a city and live in a smaller community on the outskirts. The smaller towns are better, though, if you don't have to be in the city, a still quite a bit safer.
2007-07-28 20:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may not Know much because I am 11. But I would move to a bigger city! I would just get another boyfriend because he is not a real boyfrien if he makes you stay in a little town! And long distance relationships will KILL you!
2007-07-28 20:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by mileymailhottie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the city for an internship or something, if you can. Now is the perfect time to explore that option. You may love it, you may hate it; but you'll never know until you try. If you wait, you might not have the opportunity again, and it's better not to have regrets or resentments for not following your own dreams. Good Luck!
2007-07-28 20:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by HearKat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋