Hi I am in my mid 20's and have been married for 4 years, I have a 10 year old son from a previous partner but now calls my husband Dad. (he still sees his real father).
My relationship with my husband has been pretty bad from the start, he is terrible with money and has got me in serious debt, he has no respect for me and talks down to me all the time, im not allowed to answer back if were having an argument and when he decides its over I have to forget the whole thing without an apology even though I deserve one. I have no friends any more as he doesn’t like me going out without him and gets jealous even of my friendships, the 2 friends I do have (live at the other side of the country) they absolutely hate him and say he is a control freak, his family have also told me that and told me he would never change.
He barely speaks to my son and even though i believe he loves him every argument we have he tells me he hates him and he’s a little ****, if he is naughty then i get the blame.
Any way despite his faults I do love him, I have wanted to leave a million times but I love him and cant.
Since Christmas though I have been having an affair with his brother, I know it is wrong but he is the complete opposite to my husband so kind and loving and treats me with respect, I have always had a thing for him and he for me but I never would have done anything (im not a cheater) but It just happened and I cant stop it, the sex is fantastic i never thought it could be so good its just amazing and I think i am falling in love with him and him for me I would definitely be with him forever, but he cannot give me any security he has nothing, where as now I have my own home car money, perfect job etc I know what I am doing is wrong but every time I try to stop it I just crumble I cant bear to be away from him, but I love my hubbie and would never want to hurt him despite what he has done he does love me.
please help x
2007-01-29
23:36:38
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Shannon
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Marriage & Divorce