A few months ago, I asked a few questions here about this boy I liked, for instance, how I should go about telling him I liked him and then asking what he meant when I was rejected. Well, the fleeting teenage hormones passed, and we are now friends. The problem is, over the summer, I have learned a lot about him and his life. He and his mother have bounced around in his life, they have never really stayed in one place very long, and now his mother is off on an adventure out of the city and she has left him with his step-father for God knows how long.
I have been thinking about his situation for a while now, and today I confronted him. Sometimes he can be a perfectly logical adult and pleasant to be around, but other times he doesn’t know when to stop pushing it. I asked him if the reason he was such an a** hole sometimes was if he was afraid of getting attached to me and our other friend, and this friendship thing, and if he purposely acted stupid to push us away. I asked if he tried to keep us at arms length because he thought that they weren’t done bouncing, and if he thought that that would make it less painful to say “goodbye.” After a little coaxing, he admitted that to be true.
He said that he would prefer detachment, and non-feeling. I know that even if he has convinced himself of that, he is a fire sign and a human being, and that he would be happier having something in his life, even if it was fleeting, but I don’t know how to convince him of this. I know that feeling, and it sucks, and my motherly instincts for my friends won’t allow me to just sit by and let him think that this life is worth nothing. I need help. I have limited experience in this matter. I can make him admit his fears, but I do not know how to get him to release them. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-08-10
15:01:40
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Sarah
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