I have been involved with an emotionally unavailable man for almost 2 years. I think he may have narcissistic traits that keep him from a relationship. We started as friends and shortly before I slept with him I realized I was in love with him, he led me to believe that he had deeper feelings for me and would tell what I wanted to hear (but go and do hurtful and deceitful things behind my back and would tell me he was not sorry for doing them and that I just wanted to make him feel shitty for being who he was)it was then that I started to realize that he didn't love me and was not capable of loving me or connecting emotionally with me. I am broken hearted, but I know I can recover. I still don't have it in my heart to hate him or to give up on him, although I told him I no longer want him in my life anymore. This has been one of the most frustrating, and hurtful experiences of my life. The warning signs were there, but I chose to ignore them believing that he would change and grow out of them, like he claimed he wanted to. He still doesn't understand how his behavior hurt me, and lacks the ability to show any sort of empathy, but tells me that one day he wants to be able to tell me he loves me, and to show me the ways of love that I have shown him. It's so hard to let go, but I know it's for the best. Does anyone else have experience with this, I know I can't fix him, but is there any hope that he can get help for himself, so that maybe we can build a real, honest friendship in the future?
2007-03-06
02:39:16
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