This past weekend, I stayed at my boyfriend's house and he had to go to work on Monday so I stayed at his place alone. I was putting some of his clothes away in the closet and I noticed this box on the floor. Out of curiousity, I opened the box. It was a box filled with cards, and about 3 pictures, and other stuff. It was all stuff his ex gave him. He told me that he hated her guts so why would he keep all of that stuff? She was the only girl he ever loved but it doesn't make sense to me. And why does it make me angry and sad that he has all of that stuff?
2007-03-06 02:41:05 · 14 answers · asked by amberlynne_2007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't worry to much about that. My boyfriend has pictures of old girlfriends and I see them, but it doesn't bother me because I know what he and I share. If that girl was important to him, than he would be with her and not you. Trust what he says, and it's normal to feel that way about the old stuff...but that's just what it is...OLD STUFF!! LOL! You are the NEW STUFF!! Get it? Just be happy and let the old times go. Think about here and now, and right now...is you! Hope I helped you out. ;-)
2007-03-06 02:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by N0+ 3@$!Ly &R0]{3n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it curiousity? That's the first question that should be answered and only you can answer it. The second question you need to ask is what is it about the "stuff" that makes you angry and/or sad. It's not that he kept it, I can share that much. Also, what stuff are you keeping from your past relationships and why?
I don't know if you have ever been in love before or even if you are in love now as it is not stated in your question, but rarely does anyone "hate" anyone else. They hate their behavior, things they may have said, the way the relationship ended, how they felt about certain events, etc. . . , but not the person. Most folks are not able to express what they are feeling and tend to generalize by strong statements like "I hate her guts", which are basically not true. Also, keep in mind that if you love(d) someone, there will be lots of good memories and with time, the bad fades and only the good times will be remembered. I could also guess that the cards and/or letters made him feel good about himself and perhaps that may be why he is keeping them.
Either way, I would suggest that the issue isn't about what your boyfriend has kept or not kept, but the issue may be more about trust in others and that is only something that can be worked on by you, not your boyfriend or any other man.
Good luck!
2007-03-06 10:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for the memories. I hate my ex and I keep pics. Just so you can look back 10 years from now and remember your life. I'm a pack rat and keep so much. Maybe your insecure. But, you could be feeling that way for a reason. Does he keep alot of things? Or just those? I wouldnt worry too much on it. But then again I dont know too many guy packrats.....good luck to you
2007-03-06 10:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...HUN??...us guys always keep a couple of little memories or trophies of our past conquests and stuff unfortunately. What do you keep hidden away in storage of your former lovers reasonably? We all have our stuff hun....just don't let it worry you unwittingly. It's just little memento stuff from our past...and that's it. You're being kind of snoopy digging around in his closet darling too. What's that about sister? Got some trust issues bothering you recently. How would you like it if he was turned loose in your stuff darling? What would we find hun? Hmmmm!!!
2007-03-06 10:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For old time's sake. People hang on to the good memories they had before and they keep stuff, but that doesn't necessarily mean he still has feelings for her or something.
So, don't let it bother you and don't make a big deal of it.
2007-03-06 10:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are insecure. When I was young, I probably would have thrown all of her stuff out.
As you get older, you will realize that you would have liked to keep all of your memorabilia too. It's called memories of your youth (or past). Leave his stuff alone and stop being so paranoid.
2007-03-06 10:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.either he hasn't gotten around to throwing that stuff out
2. he's not completely over her yet
3. just memories
4. he can actually use some of the stuff
you can either ask him in which he'll probably get upset that you were going thru his things or just come out and tell you the deal. but you really need to get over your insecurities and stop being so paranoid.
2007-03-06 10:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by so_sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have nothing to worry about. There are people (including myself) who like to keep mementos of the good times that happened in their lives. You can't change anybody's past. You can't tell them to get rid of their past, either. Just because he held onto a few good mementos of his past relationship with her doesn't mean he is going to leave you. My boyfriend still has a picture, a watch he doesn't wear anymore, and a ring from his first love, and it doesn't bother me, because I know and love him enough to know that he has no intention on going back to her, and that they are just mementos. I've saved stuff from past boyfriends, and my boyfriend has no objections. So you have nothing to worry about...but, in future reference, you shouldn't go through your boyfriends personal belongings without his permission.
2007-03-06 10:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just ketp it as his memories of the past. Like my ex-bf. He kept all his past girlfriend, his ex-wife stuff like mails, cards, and pictures ... some people are just like that, leave it alone and stop being so paronoid.
2007-03-06 10:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by eggyaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on.. he just keeps them for memories. i do it myself and i dont have a bit of interest in them anymore (i hate some of them as well). i just keep their things for memories... It makes you angry and sad coz u love him and ur jealous.. i truly understand you. Dont worry just trust him and maybe if he's not over her yet give him some time
2007-03-06 10:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋