Family & Relationships - 20 September 2006

I am a 28 yr old woman, have 2 kids (4 & 8), live with my partner. unfortunatly were on benifits right now, (untill my youngest is a school full time, then i will start working again, my partner is studying). I moved a long way away with my children to get away from there abusive dad, who is an alcoholic. he was homeless and we took him in, promissing he had stoped drinking, he hadnt and went totally OTT and pissed himself on the sofa regualy ect, so i new all i could do was make a clean break. since i have moved (just over a year ago)he has only asked twice to see them, both times when he is drunk on the phone. we have been split up for 3 years in january in that time he has tryed hard to evade paying child support. he owes 1 thousand in arreas. now i am being chassed for debts which he left in our name and he has done a bunk, i am left having to pay them off. which i cant afford.
how do i find him and make him pay?
He is ruining our lives even when he is not arround!
Any ideas.

2006-09-20 23:29:35 · 12 answers · asked by Kerrie-anne 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i love a boy who worked out of state will we gate married?

2006-09-20 23:27:39 · 7 answers · asked by gita p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy I like knows i like him. When his mates tease him about me liking him he doesn't say anything. He says nothing at all, he doesn't even tell them to shut up. When people ask me if i like this guy or say "how's (his name)?", I don't say anything, i just try to ignore them and pretend i don't know what they're talking about because I really do like him. (they have just heard rumours - they don't know for sure)
Is he not saying anything because he likes me too but just doesn't want his mates to know? Everytime I look at him he is looking at me is this because he likes me too? I love him to death so this is really important if you could answer this question. Thanks.

2006-09-20 23:25:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-09-20 23:24:40 · 6 answers · asked by foune d 2 in Family

Can anyone tell me if this is common. When ever I go to sleep in a double bed, I always face away from the centre of the bed. My fiance does exactly the same. Even if we swap sides we still face away from the centre of the bed. And NO.. before anybody suggest that we don't like the sight of each other + we have a very healty relationship

2006-09-20 23:24:09 · 11 answers · asked by Daffey 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

How do you go about teasing guys? Have you ever teased a guy so much he was visibly aroused in public? Ever made a guy literally beg? What do you wear to tease guys?

I had a hairstylist that was extremely hot when I was a kid.. and she would intentionally rub her large boobs on the back of my head when she was cutting my hair.. maybe she just wanted a big tip?

I also had a friends mom who would wear bikinis and ask me to put lotion on her back.. looking back on it I have no doubt she was just getting a thrill out of it.

2006-09-20 23:23:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How do you know if you're in love? Or if it's in lust?

2006-09-20 23:22:17 · 15 answers · asked by Qusan 2 in Singles & Dating

hi, i really need some advice....
it's just when I was in primary school I fell in love with a boy called Skye...........
It's just wnen I met Skye in primary school i grew more and more fond of him until i knew I was in love with him. However I wasn't sure whether he actually LOVED me or not altough there were times when I felt like he did.
It's just that in his final year of primary (he was a year younger than me you see) whilst I was at high school. My sister was then at his school and she told me that he said to someone 'I'm not going to some rubbish school like 'name of school' Community High school'. Now if he'd have LOVED me would't he have been more upset about not going to my school?? I am just VERY confused.
Also I found out from a source (it would take me too long to expalain how I found this out) that he had said to his friends (after I had sent him countless Valentine's cards) that Ian had said (about me)in a not particularly nice voice by the way she said it(that's if she was telling the truth) 'there's this girl who REALLY fancies me'. But then I also found out that he had apparantly turned down an invitation to go out with another girl because he had said he liked me .. (also i heard he had gone around saying that i was really clever!!!!...by the way this is one coment which makes me think that he wouldn't fancy me when he knows about me getting no GCSEs) But if he'd have LOVED me would he have said something like 'there's this girl that REALLY fancies me' and ''I'm not going to some rubbish school.........'??? which i didn't think were very nice things to say.
I can't tell...and would appreciate an outside opinion. Do you think he LOVED me (like I loved him) or do you think he just fancied me. is the only way to have found out/find out to have asked/to ask him. It's just I really would appreciate your opinion on this (I just need an honest answer no matter what that may be) Do you think he LOVED me or not...or only fancied me???If he loved me then why would he have chosen to go to the private school rather than my school??Or would the only way to tell be to ask him. (which I can't possibly do) It's just I loved him. can you offer me any advice on this...as I really cannot sort my head out...and cannot work it out.
is it possible .Do you think Ian ever loved me or just fancied me??? PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!PLEASE COULD YOU REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM REALLY NOT UNDERSTANDING HIM!!!! can you offer me any advice?? Did he love me?? Do boys love girls in a different sort of way to what girls love boys?? Or did he simply not love me?? His comments are confusing.PLEASE HELP!!!!! Did he love me.......or not...? This is really important to me. PLEASE be honest!!!!!!!

2006-09-20 23:22:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

what say?? how do u improve them ?? even though u r not in touch every single day?

2006-09-20 23:19:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my long distance nearly brokeup with me saying i am too negative, saying that i always think of the worst and worry and i should enjoy life, i managed to bring her around, she said even over yahoo chat i can be negative, she is a joyous girl and i cant loose her how can i improve myself to keep her and stay positive, i am under a lot of stress with my job which can affect me but she says i should leave that at the door and enjoy, i just think i am being realistic, please help

2006-09-20 23:18:48 · 25 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Singles & Dating

Not making pregnant. Just sex.

2006-09-20 23:17:26 · 6 answers · asked by Lonez 2 in Singles & Dating

ive been with my partner for 2 years and i have a daughter whos 3 next month. her real dad hasn't been bothered with her for ages and doesnt phone come round or anything,not even christmas and birthday cards and presents. can my partner adopt her with out permision from her real dad? we are due to get married and i want her to have his name. if so how do i go bout it!

2006-09-20 23:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by kitty-kat85 1 in Family

My boyfriend had a snap of him and my friend. He told me about it and showed me the snaps and tore them in my presence. Then i went to his place and i was looking over his album and i found another snap shot of him and the same friend. I asked him about it. What he told me was that he forgot to get rid of it and tore it again. He has been telling me that he loves me. Should I trust him?

2006-09-20 23:14:26 · 16 answers · asked by Shannah! 1 in Singles & Dating

I find English spoken with a French or Scottish accent very sexy, whereas an accent from East London, Manchester or Wales are a big turn-off.

What do you think?

2006-09-20 23:13:45 · 30 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Singles & Dating

On average, my boyfriend and I have sex about twelve to fourteen times a week. I'd like more, but he says he's too tired. Is this a "me" problem? He's GREAT in bed though!

2006-09-20 23:10:27 · 73 answers · asked by stuckstarless 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm having my wedding reception next yr and i'm worried about my guest lists. I only have limited number of places and i have quite a number of friends and colleagues to invite. Should I invite my boss too even though i don't really talk to him unless necessary? He is not my immediate boss. I don't even feel like inviting my immediate boss.

2006-09-20 23:09:43 · 28 answers · asked by autumn lover 6 in Weddings

Do you believe that there is someone out there who had been set apart by God for you whom you will find and meet no matter how you try to avoid...

Or do you believe that it's all about choosing whom to be with...

2006-09-20 23:07:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ladies.. have you ever been or known a girl that was a nymphomaniac? A girl that was completely obessed with sex and would do anything to get it?

Were you or the girl attracted to anyone and everyone? Or did you/they just like certain types? Whats the craziest thing you or your friend ever did? What did you or your friend find hottest about guys physically?

2006-09-20 23:06:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Touchy situation must be subtle.

2006-09-20 23:04:03 · 12 answers · asked by jay 2 in Singles & Dating

sculptures interest

2006-09-20 23:02:19 · 9 answers · asked by DIOMIDES 2 in Singles & Dating

that you didnt tell them that you did
that you have kept from them
and that maybe you did on purpose
as a revenge,
dish please
i will dish mine as soon as i am done typing it in details

2006-09-20 23:01:19 · 18 answers · asked by Dawn C 5 in Friends

i met a girl, and i was having a crush in her, and she was having a crush on me too, i am actually famous in our school. but when the month passed, when i said "i love you, do you love me?" she said she still dont know. and she have other boy, should i dump her?

2006-09-20 23:01:04 · 27 answers · asked by Justin 4 in Friends

So i went to jail i got out and 3 years later i seen the duds again and they tried the same stunt what would i be able to do so that i do not get into trouble this time and go to jail i tried to get a gun permit. but i have a felony so what now

2006-09-20 23:00:09 · 2 answers · asked by mytjoemaine 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

This one somewhat inebriated non-straight guy told me that I should try acting in Hollywood because I could play roles that Angelina Jolie plays. I look nothing like her, but he says there's something about me--especially my eyes--in that I could have multiple roles and play the "villainess" for example. Uh, if someone told you to try acting, especially in "villainess" roles because of your eyes, what would you think? Is this a compliment or not?

2006-09-20 22:59:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i really like this friend of mine... we exchanged many "love ya's" and "jaan's" and all... we always kept msgin each otha... this is till he left for london a week ago.... i really miss him and his msgs... i just dont knw how to keep him off my mind... If i tell him about my feelings for him AND IF HE DOESNT like me back then i wont be able to look him into his eye again... hes comin back in 4 months... should i wait for 4 month and tell him everything face to face... or mail him?? as it is im expecting a reply from him as he settles down... but he may have his own reasons not to reply...i may take it wrongly and be heart broken if he doesnt get in touch at all... sooo ne help??? suggestions???

2006-09-20 22:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I recently found out that my best friends partner is cheating on him. should i tell him? If i do whats the best way to do it:? Help!!!!

2006-09-20 22:56:10 · 39 answers · asked by Cruz 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-20 22:56:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

this is shambhvi

2006-09-20 22:55:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you met the man or woman of your dreams but they had one habit that would put you off them, what would it be ?

2006-09-20 22:54:25 · 25 answers · asked by dizzymooo 4 in Singles & Dating

We are very close to many people in our church, but the cost of the reception dinner will prohibit us asking them to the wedding. Is it appropriate to have an open wedding, with a closed reception?

2006-09-20 22:53:51 · 10 answers · asked by hopalong 2 in Weddings