We are very close to many people in our church, but the cost of the reception dinner will prohibit us asking them to the wedding. Is it appropriate to have an open wedding, with a closed reception?
2006-09-20 22:53:51 · 10 answers · asked by hopalong 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely not. It will appear that you just want gifts. Many people will feel hurt. Put yourself in the place of someone who is not invited to the reception sitting next to someone who is invited.
Have a less expensive reception or a smaller wedding.
2006-09-21 01:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by nonna_barbara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Anyone you INVITE to the ceremony MUST be "received" socially at a reception afterwards.
(People dropping in to your ceremony WITHOUT an invitation sent to them, like for example it is a custom in some areas for churchfolk just to attend in the wedding ceremony as they would a regular worship service, are different-- you do NOT need to invite them to your reception.)
You can schedule your ceremony and reception for a non-meal time of day and have a non-meal reception: serve just cake and punch, or just a fruit and cheese tray. That way you can invite more people on the same budget. It's always more polite to invite more people to a modest reception than it is to exclude people you like and serve a full fancy dinner.
2006-09-22 19:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could consider doing a minimalistic punch and cupcake reception at the church - everyone from the ceremony could go straight there while you are taking pictures. You could show up and feed each other a cupcake for the guests. Then, plan your closed reception following the church. Good luck & many congratulations!!!!
2006-09-20 23:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not,ask your church family to put together a dinner so everyone can attend.If you do,your going to lose a lot of true friends.And what if they get you a gift but can't come to the reception? Can you live with that?
2006-09-20 23:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Receptions are just an option, but usually that's where you get the gifts from people that love you. The wedding should be relatively cheap, unless the parents want to foot the bill. I don't know what religeon you are in, but my daughter made out very well. I paid under a thousand for the wedding, and she got about 10 grand in gifts. She's Calvary, I'm no religeon, but I was a single dad, so we are real close. Good luck, please email me with questions or details. Ron
2006-09-20 23:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have in no way heard of inviting the completed church club, fantastically because you're not any further even close to to three of them. yet one aspect is for particular... to ask human beings to a wedding ceremony yet no longer to the reception is fairly socially unacceptable. In essence, you say they are welcome to work out you on your fairly gown yet they don't look solid sufficient to mingle with different travellers on the reception and connect the celebratory party . you're arising a " Have and performance no longer" wedding ceremony invitation record. How interior the international will you word the invites with out being rude? genuinely, human beings will communicate!! genuinely, if I were excluded from the reception, i does no longer attend the marriage both.
2016-11-23 12:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by amass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is O.K.
That is why there is nothing about the reception on the actual invitation.
You just put a reception card in the envelope of the people who are invited to the dinner.
2006-09-21 03:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, that is not appropriate. If you can't afford it, don't do it. Don't try to compromise by doing the ceremony one way and the reception another.
2006-09-21 04:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's you wedding, you can do what you like. Open wed, closed recep just seems a little tacky. Dinner cost option; serve chicken and lots of vegies instead of steak. Or how about just finger food munchy things.
good luck
2006-09-20 23:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by reynwater 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's ok for both....closed wedding or reception
2006-09-20 22:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋