I am 30 and in a 5-year marriage with a great man. He's my first and only lover and we've shared many happy times. We're best friends. Yet for years, this is all we've been to each other. He's content with the situation and I'm not. I want to be a wife, a sex object and mother--not just a friend.
Sex has always been hard for us and we've endured long periods of absinence. He's a workaholic, thriving on intellectual pursuits while I've come to crave more physical and emotional contact. I want travel, adventure, and friends; he's a homebody with no friends other than me. I've begun to want kids but he is adamantly against them, even the thought of them.
So many differences and hurt feelings. I love him and feel guilty for considering divorce. He makes me feel like I'm his world, and that without me he'll break. That kills me, but I'm afraid I'm losing myself. We've been trying to fix things for 7 months yet I don't think he gets it.
Any suggestions as to what I might do?
2006-06-11
06:18:51
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Aura
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Marriage & Divorce