Education & Reference - 23 February 2007

University of Toronto or York University?

2007-02-23 04:16:59 · 2 answers · asked by oneknows 1 in Teaching

The Behavior of Alcoholic

“Alcohol addiction is a clear example of what I call a Love Buster because it causes so much suffering in marriage.” According to Dr. Harley, the Marriage Builders Counseling & Coaching Center. Besides being physically and emotionally harmful to alcoholics addiction is also harmful to those of who loves it so much. There are so many people who lives have been ruined because they married alcoholics or there is an alcoholic in their family. We are going to discuss the behaviors and feelings felt by the child/partner of a substance abuser and the behavior of Lorna Crozier’s mother and hers typical feeling in the story ‘What Stays in the Family’.

‘Addiction makes abuser insensitive to everyone who cares for them.’ Said by Dr. Harley. In the story Lorna’s mother had to mortify the shameful feeling of her alcoholic husband. In her whole life she has been to keep that in secret, and she also became an independent and a supportive woman for her family. Because she could not trust and depend on her husband anymore such as ‘when mom would ask for grocery money, he’d hand her a one-dollar bill with the attitude of a patron bestowing great gifts-and for that she’d almost have to beg’ (page78). He broke her heart so she wants to work, the idea of that was she could make some money, and she did not have to face him everyday. Moreover, Lorna’s mother not only goes to work, but also had her social life for example, ‘I can’t remember her getting together with women friends for a night on the town, but she curled and bowled in afternoon ladies’ leagues, and she met her neighbors for coffee once a week. If she wasn’t working’ (page79). She also has her own mind, she created a lot of lies to hide her family secret.

‘The fear that I have been tricking people has been with me almost all my life’ (page80). Said by Lorna. Under her mother’s influence Lorna must have to keep this shameful family secret as well for example, ‘I couldn’t tell anyone the real reason that mom and I walked everywhere’ (page79). Due to her father, she hides her real personality such as ‘On the surface I was well-adjusted, popular, optimistic. Inside I burned with shame’ (page80).
While she denied this disgrace secret, she also uses her creativity to make lies as well. For example, ‘What our secret meant in small and practical terms was that I couldn’t ask a girlfriend to sleep over if mom thought dad was on a toot’ (page79). And ‘I couldn’t tell my high-school boyfriend why I didn’t ask him to spend Christmas with my family when he was left alone’ (page80). Over all these sources are proved Lorna’s low self-esteem, humiliation and mortification.

According to the research from Al-Anon article they summarized that how to treat a relationship with alcoholic are ‘Detachment’ and ‘Forgiveness’. First ‘Detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people’ from Al-Anon (page2). Al-Anon article also said that alcoholic just like a disease, we should not take this behavior personally ‘in time we can learn to say to ourselves, “That’s just alcoholism” and let it go’ (page 2). Second ‘Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves. We simply pay too high a price when we refuse to forgive’ (page 5). They mean people should forgive those of who did something wrong instead memorized in out heart. Lorna and her mother’s typical behaviors and feelings that is normal because they were just sucking in and was normal that they feel shameful and disgraceful. No one wants to tell anyone the family secret because that is a stigma for them. And at the end Lorna and her mother did forgive the dad, no matter how bad the dad was the mother even go back to take care of him because he got cancer at the end. They both sacrificed to protest the truth.

2007-02-23 04:13:29 · 6 answers · asked by Yumiko 1 in Homework Help

For me to join?I want to know your favorite and why.

2007-02-23 04:13:12 · 3 answers · asked by G 3 in Higher Education (University +)

that if a white person was to choose to go to an all black university they wont have to pay a dime????

2007-02-23 04:11:16 · 3 answers · asked by ladysagg07 1 in Financial Aid

The sat score is 1330 and i want to find in which universities i can be accepted.

2007-02-23 04:09:10 · 1 answers · asked by keli s 1 in Higher Education (University +)

2007-02-23 04:08:55 · 5 answers · asked by peace 1 in Words & Wordplay

2007-02-23 04:07:28 · 1 answers · asked by bign111 1 in Primary & Secondary Education

What kind of subjects and issues are taught in 5th grade?

2007-02-23 04:07:09 · 3 answers · asked by BrandonJDB 1 in Teaching

2007-02-23 04:06:08 · 2 answers · asked by blackmaster 1 in Other - Education

I am a university student taking engineering course. I always have problems when i need to do a presentation for certain projects in front of lecturers and other students. When i am in front to present, I always feel extravagant nervous and this really screw up my presentation. I have do a lot of practice and preparation before the presentation but my nervousness cannot be control and i tend to forget what i should say.So, as a result my presentation came out not really effective and I will get really low mark for that. Pls..Pls..everyone help me with my problem..

2007-02-23 04:05:59 · 8 answers · asked by irah_2 1 in Higher Education (University +)

2007-02-23 04:04:21 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Higher Education (University +)

how does one solve this. The altitude of a right triangle divides the hypotenuse into segments whose measures are 9 inches and 4 inches. Find to the nearest degree the measure of the smaller acute angle of the original triangle.

2007-02-23 04:04:03 · 2 answers · asked by ctanoyank 1 in Homework Help

What kind of subjects and issues are taught in 6th grade?

2007-02-23 04:03:43 · 2 answers · asked by BrandonJDB 1 in Teaching

2007-02-23 04:03:14 · 4 answers · asked by miasamoyed3 1 in Trivia

2007-02-23 04:02:03 · 3 answers · asked by J 3 in Words & Wordplay

John Calvin's father was a lay administrator in the service of the local bishop. what is his job?

2007-02-23 04:00:38 · 1 answers · asked by dragonshows 2 in Other - Education

1. linear, chronological plots & standard methods of character development

2. nontraditional forms that blur the boundaries between fiction & nonfiction

3. themes advancing the idea that life is limited

4. imitation & the nostalgic pursuit of the past

2007-02-23 03:57:42 · 1 answers · asked by tigg r 1 in Homework Help

2007-02-23 03:57:08 · 1 answers · asked by frankiemionetto 1 in Other - Education

2007-02-23 03:56:40 · 2 answers · asked by Nancy A. John1 1 in Financial Aid

2007-02-23 03:56:14 · 3 answers · asked by Sourabh D 1 in Higher Education (University +)

Subtract (enter as an improper fraction)
Jim needs 3 ½ yards of burlap to cover his bulletin board. His brother gives him 1 1/6yards. How much more does Jim need to purchase?
____ Yards

3 ½ x 6
1 1/6 x 2

6/12
2/12

3 6/12
-
1 2/12
_____
2 4/12


Add (enter as an improper fraction)
The office had 12 ½ dozen boxes of envelops. They ordered 14 ¾ dozen more. How many dozen do they have now?
____ Dozen


12 ½
14 ¾

½ x 4
¾ x 2

4/8

6/8

12 4/8
+
14 6/8
______
26 10/8


Add (enter as an improper fraction)
You are decorating the school for the Christmas party. So far, you have used 12 ½ yards of silver rope. You have 36 2/3 yards left. How much did you have to start with?
____ Yards

12 ½
36 2/3

½ x 3 = 3/6
2/3 x 2 = 4/6

12 3/6
+
36 4/6
_____
48 7/6

Okay those are all the ones I have done. And the answer is still wrong some how...can anyone tell me what I am doing wrong?

2007-02-23 03:56:11 · 3 answers · asked by deathfromace 5 in Homework Help

2007-02-23 03:56:04 · 2 answers · asked by Dickman J 1 in Other - Education

My little sister is graduating from college this year with a degree in Interior Design. I have no idea what to get her for a gift, but I'd like to give her a career-oriented gift. Any suggestions?

2007-02-23 03:55:38 · 2 answers · asked by geniphurb 2 in Higher Education (University +)

please help to explain this chart with short sentence at

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2007-02-23 03:51:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Homework Help

2007-02-23 03:51:28 · 3 answers · asked by anamaye 1 in Higher Education (University +)

2007-02-23 03:50:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Quotations

for my homework ive done it all except finding a logo on 'grameen bank'

can u guys help me by giving me a link to a logo and try it b4 u tell me cos none of the pictures r working!!!

2007-02-23 03:50:09 · 12 answers · asked by xchocolate-rainbowsx 4 in Homework Help

" Using an example from your college experience aside from classes ans classwork, please tell us what activity is most important to you and why. Use a different example from the one used in question 2 " what do you think it's that activity ? what would you say if you were in my position from your experiences ?

2007-02-23 03:48:33 · 1 answers · asked by Captain Rome 3 in Higher Education (University +)

Preferably, statistics of divorce rates before and after homosexuality was legalized in the Netherlands.

2007-02-23 03:48:25 · 2 answers · asked by Sweet Cheeks 7 in Homework Help

Hey,

does any1 kno what you need to be a lawyer?

not any spesific lawyer

but just wht i need to get to be one

2007-02-23 03:45:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Higher Education (University +)