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The Behavior of Alcoholic

“Alcohol addiction is a clear example of what I call a Love Buster because it causes so much suffering in marriage.” According to Dr. Harley, the Marriage Builders Counseling & Coaching Center. Besides being physically and emotionally harmful to alcoholics addiction is also harmful to those of who loves it so much. There are so many people who lives have been ruined because they married alcoholics or there is an alcoholic in their family. We are going to discuss the behaviors and feelings felt by the child/partner of a substance abuser and the behavior of Lorna Crozier’s mother and hers typical feeling in the story ‘What Stays in the Family’.

‘Addiction makes abuser insensitive to everyone who cares for them.’ Said by Dr. Harley. In the story Lorna’s mother had to mortify the shameful feeling of her alcoholic husband. In her whole life she has been to keep that in secret, and she also became an independent and a supportive woman for her family. Because she could not trust and depend on her husband anymore such as ‘when mom would ask for grocery money, he’d hand her a one-dollar bill with the attitude of a patron bestowing great gifts-and for that she’d almost have to beg’ (page78). He broke her heart so she wants to work, the idea of that was she could make some money, and she did not have to face him everyday. Moreover, Lorna’s mother not only goes to work, but also had her social life for example, ‘I can’t remember her getting together with women friends for a night on the town, but she curled and bowled in afternoon ladies’ leagues, and she met her neighbors for coffee once a week. If she wasn’t working’ (page79). She also has her own mind, she created a lot of lies to hide her family secret.

‘The fear that I have been tricking people has been with me almost all my life’ (page80). Said by Lorna. Under her mother’s influence Lorna must have to keep this shameful family secret as well for example, ‘I couldn’t tell anyone the real reason that mom and I walked everywhere’ (page79). Due to her father, she hides her real personality such as ‘On the surface I was well-adjusted, popular, optimistic. Inside I burned with shame’ (page80).
While she denied this disgrace secret, she also uses her creativity to make lies as well. For example, ‘What our secret meant in small and practical terms was that I couldn’t ask a girlfriend to sleep over if mom thought dad was on a toot’ (page79). And ‘I couldn’t tell my high-school boyfriend why I didn’t ask him to spend Christmas with my family when he was left alone’ (page80). Over all these sources are proved Lorna’s low self-esteem, humiliation and mortification.

According to the research from Al-Anon article they summarized that how to treat a relationship with alcoholic are ‘Detachment’ and ‘Forgiveness’. First ‘Detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people’ from Al-Anon (page2). Al-Anon article also said that alcoholic just like a disease, we should not take this behavior personally ‘in time we can learn to say to ourselves, “That’s just alcoholism” and let it go’ (page 2). Second ‘Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves. We simply pay too high a price when we refuse to forgive’ (page 5). They mean people should forgive those of who did something wrong instead memorized in out heart. Lorna and her mother’s typical behaviors and feelings that is normal because they were just sucking in and was normal that they feel shameful and disgraceful. No one wants to tell anyone the family secret because that is a stigma for them. And at the end Lorna and her mother did forgive the dad, no matter how bad the dad was the mother even go back to take care of him because he got cancer at the end. They both sacrificed to protest the truth.

Answer 1

"Alcohol addiction is a clear example of what I call a Love Buster because it causes so much suffering in marriage.” (Dr. Harley. YEAR). Alcoholism is physicaly and emotionally harmful to those who are addicted as well as to those who live with the addict. There are many people whose lives have been ruined because they married alcoholics or there is an alcoholic in the family. In order to understand fully the impact alcoholism has on one's family it is necessary to examine the child/partner of a substance abuser as well as the alcoholics behaviour. The story "What Stays in the Family" explores the lives of both the alcoholic as well as other family members and how they deal with this addiction and their true feelings.

Dr. Harley states ‘Addiction makes abuser insensitive to everyone who cares for them.’ In the story "What stays in the Family", Lorna’s mother was mortified and held shameful feelings toward her alcoholic husband. Having an alcoholic husband has caused her to keep secrets from those close to her, however she also became an independent and a supportive woman for her family. The addiction of her husband to alcohol causes her to mistrust him and makes him less dependable:
‘when mom would ask for grocery money, he’d hand her a one-dollar bill with the attitude of a patron bestowing great gifts-and for that she’d almost have to beg’ (page78).
He broke her heart which causes her to get a job in order to make money and prevent her from having to face him everyday. Moreover, Lorna’s mother not only goes to work, but she also gets a social life, ‘I can’t remember her getting together with women friends for a night on the town, but she curled and bowled in afternoon ladies’ leagues, and she met her neighbors for coffee once a week. If she wasn’t working’ (page79). She also has her own mind, she created a lot of lies to hide her family secret.

‘The fear that I have been tricking people has been with me almost all my life’ (page80). Under her mother’s influence, Lorna learns that she must keep this shameful family secret as well which is shown in her line, ‘I couldn’t tell anyone the real reason that mom and I walked everywhere’ (page79). Due to her father's addiction, she hides her real personality such as ‘On the surface I was well-adjusted, popular, optimistic. Inside I burned with shame’ (page80). While she denied this disgraceful secret, she used her creativity to make lies as well. For example, ‘What our secret meant in small and practical terms was that I couldn’t ask a girlfriend to sleep over if mom thought dad was on a toot’ (page79). And ‘I couldn’t tell my high-school boyfriend why I didn’t ask him to spend Christmas with my family when he was left alone’ (page80). The lies and secrets Lorna must hold throughout the story and her inner feelings on her situation prove that Lorna haslow self-esteem, and feels humiliated.

According to Al-Anon research the best ways to treat a relationship with alcoholics are ‘Detachment’ and ‘Forgiveness’. First, ‘Detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people’ from Al-Anon (page2). The Al-Anon article also said that alcoholism is like a disease, and we should not take this behavior personally ‘in time we can learn to say to ourselves, “That’s just alcoholism” and let it go’ (page 2). Second, ‘Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves. We simply pay too high a price when we refuse to forgive’ (page 5). They suggest that people should forgive those who did something wrong so that it does not build up in ourselves and stay memorized in out hearts. Lorna and her mother’s typical behaviors and feelings are normal according to Al-Anon because they were just sucking in and it was normal that they felt shameful and disgraced. No one wants to tell anyone the family secret because that is a stigma for them. And at the end Lorna and her mother did forgive the dad, no matter how bad the dad was the mother even go back to take care of him because he got cancer at the end. They both sacrificed to protest the truth.





I have done some editing for you but there are still a few things you have to do. When you talk about Dr. Haley and its in brackets add the year or page number from that source. Also, in your third paragraph you state that the sources prove Lorna has a low self esteem and humiliation however you do not show this in that paragraph. You have a ton of examples from throughout the book but you dont say anything about them like why you are using them and how they prove your point. Try discussing your quotations more it will make your essay a lot stronger!

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