I’m looking for the best answer possible. So I’ll tell you in details about me and him.
Ok, I’m 25 years old. I’m fun-loving, friendly, Warm-hearted, humorous, outgoing and happy go-lucky girl. I like to party, travel, making new friends and enjoy my life. I’m a Sagittarius (if it helps). I broke up with my ex a year ago, but I still love him. I know no one can yet take his place. Now, I think I just want to look for a fling. It’s been a year and I fail to get a fling. Many guys like me and want to be with me, I know but I just can’t be serious. I don’t want to hurt them and I just can’t. I need time to heal my wounds.
Ok, this guy is 40 years old divorce. He’s a Virgo (if it helps)
I met him during my vacation on Hawaii 6 months ago. We met at a club. He was watching me from afar and finally made a move and talked to me. We got this instant connection and I liked him. He seemed to really like me. The next day, we had a date, a romantic date with beautiful beaches and nice dinner. We had great conversation together. He is a nice guy, calm, respectful, stable, charming, mature and caring. He never said anything sweet like he liked me bla bla. He wasn’t good at expressing his feelings. But he was just so caring for me. We had sex and it was great.
I told him that I wasn’t ready for any serious relationship. He said he was too. He wanted to focus on his career and he travels a lot, so he wasn’t ready too.
Next morning, we left. He lives in state A, I live in B, its like 4 hours drive. We exchanged number. After the vacation, we did meet each other like once a month. On the second date, after the first date on the vacation, basically, we were just like lovers, we acted like lovers, and we held hands, kissed in public and stuff. We went partying and we had drinks. We talked about anything but not our personal lives. He never asked me if I had a boyfriend etc. we just talked about life, people, society etc. many times, I felt like he was intimidated going out with me. Some stupid men liked to stare at me and kind of like flirted with me. But I just ignored them. I didn’t give a damn! However, I felt like he wasn’t very comfortable with that. He looked a little uptight and liked to play it cool. He attracts me, I like guy who is calm and not jealous like him. The date was great.
Third date, after a month, now... he seemed a little bit colder than usual. Even though I could see he cared about me but he totally played it cool. He seemed to withdraw a little bit, like didn’t kiss me that much or caresses me like he did before. I could feel it.
When he went to bathroom, a guy came near me and stood beside me. He saw it and he asked that guy to get off, he looked pissed off.
I asked him if he was alrite and why he was so quiet etc. He just said nothing. As I showed him some pictures from my cell, a text popped up from David, my friend. He saw it and said “Oh David! It’s ok replying him first!” he seemed not happy.
Then my cell’s battery went empty, he said he could take my cell over his mom place to recharge it cuz his mom lived nearby, then we came back. I said never mind. It’s ok. Then he said “it was not okay, it was totally empty”. I insisted it was fine. He looked unhappy. When I said something I asked him... like bla bla bla was it you? Did I tell you that? He then said “no! It was your boyfriend! Maybe some other guy!” all of the sudden I felt like he was getting sensitive.
The next morning I woke up, He had gone back to his mom house, took a shower and back here again and he took my cell and charged it.
He then sent me to meet my friends. He went to work. We kissed goodbye.
Since then, He didn’t text or call me. I called him one time and we still talked great. We chatted online once in a while. I can feel that he seems to avoid me. I’m so upset cuz I think I’m falling for him. He was mean to me like... he’d say... I’m so busy! Talk next time! Bye… bye...! I feel like he isn’t like that. He’s faking to be mean to me.
I don’t know! On his birthday, I texted him and wished him happy birthday. He said “good night little one...” That’s all? Yeah... that’s all he could say.
I figured out, I should just stop contacting him.
2 months gone by, we didn’t contact each other at all. Until, last night, I texted him cuz I got a new job and I just wanted to tell him cuz It was related to the business he does currently.
We texted and he sounded happy to hear from me. Lastly I said
Me: “okay, I’ll call you if I do go to A (his state) but I’m not sure when cuz I’ll be busy”
Him: “sure. I’m happy for you. Good nite”
Me: Nite..
Him: “U miss me?”
Me: “NOT that if you don’t. Gud night!”
Him: Night... dream of me.
Him: Miss…
Gosh! I miss him. What the hell was that? I freakin’ hate him and in love with him. What is he thinking? Does he like me? How does he feel about me?
I’m asking this cuz I just wanna know how he feels and thats it! I don’t expect to have a relationship with him. I know we are not meant to be. Is he playing me?
Please tell me.. I’m not going to pursue him. 15 years is big age gap. I just want to know this guy thinking. He freakin’ intrigues me.
2007-11-06
05:01:14
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