My wife is about 100 lbs overweight. She has been for years. She gained it after the birth of our second child and never really lost it.
I do not complain about it, but I (in the GENTLEST possible way), when she asks me if I would like her to lose weight, tell her that yes I'd prefer it, but if you never do it's not a really big deal.
That's the truth - but the problem is that SHE is much more unhappy about her being overweight than I am. I have done EVERYTHING - cooking whatever diet she wanted, setting up a great gym in our garage (which she said she would use but now won't, with me or without me), inviting her for bike rides or walks with me and the kids - nothing.
BUT she STILL whines and moans ALL THE TIME about how "unfair" it is about her being overweight. This is driving me crazy. I can't make it happen - she has to.
btw I am in excellent shape and pretty much always have been. I love her to death, but this is hurting our marriage, and her health one day.
2007-02-22
01:50:55
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SuperDude
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