My almost 3-year relationship with my ex-boyfriend ended 4 yrs ago.To cut the long story short,he was infidel.But up until now,he continuously denies that he cheated.We're civil to each other and have our own relationships (he's still with that girl, by the way).Yet, despite the fact that it has already been 4 years since my life's drama took place, I still couldn't help but wish that something bad happens to them - may it be them splitting up or just get a good case of Karma.They are still very happy together and I can't help but feel upset about the fact that they are still not paying for the pain they've caused me.
It hurts really bad.
I know this feeling is abnormal, thats why I just want to find a way to forgive them and release all the ill feelings I have towards them even if they dont acknowledge the fact that they've practically ruined my life four years ago.I know its possible to forgive people even if they do not admit to their own wrongdoing...i just dont know how...
2007-02-22 01:50:36 · 26 answers · asked by pinai_nurse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just completely cut him off your life. Don't ever talk to him again and move on
Your ex sound like a pompous a.ss ):(
2007-02-22 01:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please! You are under no obligation to "forgive" this loser. However, for your own sake, you need to forget about him and get on with your own life. What he did to you sucks, and eventually karma is going to come around and bite him in the butt (eventually). But in the mean time, lose the baggage and just move on! You don't have to forgive him to release the ill feelings. You need to get over/past what happened and have your own happy life to release the ill feelings. Sometimes the best revenge is your own success. Get a makeover and some cute shoes and go find yourself a hottie. And when you find that hottie, whip something on him so good that he doesn't even think about being unfaithful.
2007-02-22 02:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to forgive them if it's not in your heart, just let it go. Don't give into the bad feelings. Bad things happen to good people all of the time. Vengeful feelings have a way of making a person bitter over time and the only person suffering will be you.
Think about this - if something bad did happen to them, it would leave you feeling guilty because you wished it. This type of thinking is detrimental to you.
Forget them and think about the stuff that really matters in your life.
2007-02-22 01:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seems like you had been hold on to the past for four long years, which he had already moved on a long time ago. I understand your pain that you felt hurt and betrayal. But you have to let it go, by find forgiveness within yourself so you can have your normal life back. Keep holding a grudge, you are only hurting yourself. If I am in your situation, I will never look back twice, if I ever find love again, I'll devote all my attention in it, and start fresh. I know it is not simple to say ,but one thing I'll let him know that I am doing much better than ever without him, and who knows someday he might regret what he did missing out.
2007-02-22 02:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obsessed with this. He was a bf not a husband. The fact he is still with her means he was more interested in her and still is. You are jealous. Old Chinese saying..."jealosy is more self love than love."
It has been 4 years since he left you. Honey, there are bigger dramas in this life. It hurts really bad because you allow it to. You are out of his life. Stop wishing ill of them, that's evil. Revenge is God's job, not yours.
They did't ruin your life, you did. They don't need or want your forgiveness either and don't have to admit anything except they are happy together. Get some professional help because you certainly need it. It is not a critizism...just a fact. Don't be your own worst enemy. Stop blaming others for your own problems. Get help, keep trying, pray a lot, get on with your life. Accomplish this and you'll be okay. Good Luck.
PS...everyone here has given you the right answer. Are you listening? Take the advice of all this wise counsel and forgive and get on with your life. Don't heed it and your life in is for one long string of misery of your own doing.
2007-02-22 02:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You mentioned you EACH have your OWN relationships,but
you seem NOT to have the emotional imput in your relationship
to stop your pinning over something thats as my grandmother
would put it DEAD and STINKING!
Did you ever consider why you are still consumed with this
past episode in your life instead of putting all of your effort in
whats going on in your life NOW?
You know deep down that you haven't moved on in your heart and that really isn't normal or healthy and you can't keep holding on to this past great love or you won't have a present great love. Make up in your mind to let it go once and for all if you are unable to do that, it's time to seek a counselor.
2007-02-22 02:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key to forgiveness and letting go is you, not him. You must see this as just something that you no longer will concern yourself with. They obviously aren't loosing any sleep over it and neither should you. Forgiveness has nothing to do with whether they acknowledge the deed. Forgiveness is all about going on with life, not worrying about the situation any longer (or dwelling on it). Move on, find someone else to have fun with (friend or boyfriend) and just enjoy life. Don't waste your life rehashing the past. No individual on this planet will ever be 100% perfect. Accept this fact, and move on.
2007-02-22 01:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by Alan F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They did not ruin your life. They did you a favor! Let the two cheaters be happy together. And more than likely they cheat on each other. Getting rid of him was a God send for you.
Four years is a long time to hurt. It is a long time to give into anger. It is okay that you once loved a jerk. But not okay to continue. Your better than that!
2007-02-22 01:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say call the police. i comprehend if my 14 year previous sister replaced into in that concern i might checklist the pervert for taking benefit of her. counting on the place you're from sixteen is legally a minor. whilst you're nervous approximately your sister being mad you heavily might desire to think again. she gets over it, you're her sister. additionally i come across it very unnatural for a 21 year previous guy as much as now a sixteen year previous. you will possibly be able to desire to do what you're gut tells you. And in case you sister is pregnant, help her by any potential you are able to. seek advice from her approximately adoption and clarify to her the value of a youngster. there are a number of components on the internet. i wish each thing works out for her. and that i wish this guy is going to reformatory.
2016-10-16 06:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I was hurt by my ex when he told me that he no longer wanted a relationship with me but he did me the biggest favor , and the way I forgave him was to move on , pray , and find myself . If you are in a new relationship focus on the here and now . The cheating is what hurts and he should hope that she will not cheat on him ( Karma is real ) .
Take care
2007-02-22 02:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Constance M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, and trust me the right thing to do is just find someone new for you and try to forget what they did, and be happy with someone and when they see your happy and have forgotten what they did for you, they will feel miserable, because they are going to see that you don't care about them anymore. They are not worth you even thinking about them. So, don't waist your time on them, when you could be missing out on meeting someone new. *_*
2007-02-22 01:58:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋