Help I am a Helpless Drunk!?

Question

I need help! but I am angry and very disapointed. I have called Turning Point and the Direct line in Melbourne Australia in an attempt to find out about rehabilitation s prorams, but was told `you have been drinking, call back tomorrow' and therefore they would not talk to me. (I rang after 10pm when the family had gone to bed and was nHoweve one person findely agreaed to help after I promised her that I would not speak a word sand then proceded to disscuss what she knew of resent recearch,(she ony knew the word research,nothing else) then proceeded to refer me to AA , which she did not know anything about. I need help, not an arogant person with no knowledge or basic communication skills or knowlege. I am so absolutely mad now that I will gt sober enoug to write and tell our goverment to to at leat employ people who know how to support, advise and direct people with alcohol problems. I dont ned them to tell me of or brush me aside, my husband can do this for free. sorry

Answer 1

Its painful and I know that alcohol dulls the pain. Life is not fair and we do not know how to live without the pain. We try to hide the pain with alcohol and then we have to hide the alcohol so others do not know how much we are drinking. The good news is that you sound like you are tired of it. You will only stop drinking when you are tired of drinking. The reality is that the drinking is only making things worse. Most people blame their drinking on anything and everything else, while we are responsible for drinking. No one forces us to take that first sip, and as cliche as it sounds, if you don't take that first sip you will not take the second, third,.... etc. I have lived through this night mare and survived, so can you. maybe you will not have to lose everything time and time again before you work things out. I was a slow learner, but today everything is OK, and believe it or not it starts without having that first drink and if the reason is so that you can give somebody hell, that's a good enough reason to start. Hang in there.

Answer 2

Try calling back before you start drinking, or after you have only had one drink, to make it easier. See your doctor, who may know of a program. Detox isn't easy, but it's worth it! I did it cold turkey, by myself, but don't recommend it as a solution for everyone. My brother went into a clinic (drunk). He had to avoid alcohol completely. I still have a beer with a meal, but only once every several weeks. That was the deal I made with myself. I would strongly advise you and others in a similar position to never touch another drop. Adelaide, South Australia.

Answer 3

Good drinking quotes; The thing about drinking is that when you quit, you have to face the marvelous personality that started you drinking in the first place. - First you take a drink. Then the drink takes a drink. Then the drink takes you. -Sorrows know how to swim. Might not be any help whatsoever but how can anyone help someone who won't muster up enough courage to eradicate from their lives that which destroys their harmony and the well- being of those that love them.

Answer 4

Hmmm so let me try to see the intelligence here... professional institutions turn you away so Yahoo Answers is your medium??? Stop blaming your Gov for your problems too. Your gov't didn't hand you a supply of booze and say drink up mate. Sorry man but this attitude bothers the heck out of me. I mean you must of been drunk when you called... so you think it is effective to talk to a drunk on the phone... think you would of absorbed anythign they said? No way... you were drunk. You need to physically go somewhere and check yourself in. Have someone you know do it... just don't blame others for your misfortunes.

Answer 5

the bottom line is...u won't get sober or quit drugs or nething else until u want to help urself! i used to be a drunk and i decided 1 day that i was done with it! i had been drinking every day 4 over 20 years! i quit just like that and never looked back! i did the same to a drug addiction as well. it can be done. just do it!

Answer 6

When you are serious enough to call helpliines while sober you will find them ready and able to help you by referrring you to a variety of services that can offer you some assistance.

Alcoholics Anonymous has been around for a very long time maye 60 or 70 years now and there are any number of people who will tell you it didnt work for them. There is also a great number of people who will tell you it did work for them.

It is a programme that requires you to take control of your own life and work through a programme that is the original 12 Step programme. Basically you need to want to stop drinking and be willing to work through the programme at your own pace for the programme to work.

AA is most successful in helping people who learn to be honest with themselves and take responsibility for their own lives. There is nothing that forces you to go to AA and there is nothing preventing you from going it is all a matter of personal will.

Some of the sayings you will see and hear in AA meetings are:
One Day At A Time
Let Go, Let God
First Things, First
But For The Grace Of God

You will see and hear God mentioned in AA meetings. This is in reference to God as you understand God to be. It is perhaps better to consider this as your personal Higher Power, whatever is greater than humankind. AA is not a religion and has nothing to do with religion.

I have personally known many people to work through the AA programme to gain their own sobriety and regain their own lives.

Here is what AA Australia says about itself:

ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.

The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no dues or fees for A.A. membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions.

A.A. is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes.

Our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety.

The heart of the suggested program of personal recovery is contained in Twelve Steps describing the experience of the earliest members of the Society:

We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Newcomers are not asked to accept or follow these Twelve Steps in their entirety if they feel unwilling or unable to do so.

They will usually be asked to keep an open mind, to attend meetings at which recovered alcoholics describe their personal experiences in achieving sobriety, and to read A.A. literature describing and interpreting the A.A. program.

A.A. members will usually emphasize to newcomers that only problem drinkers themselves, individually, can determine whether or not they are in fact alcoholics.

At the same time, it will be pointed out that all available medical testimony indicates that alcoholism is a progressive illness, that it cannot be cured in the ordinary sense of the term, but that it can be arrested through total abstinence from alcohol in any form.

Answer 7

this is wat you have to do. cut down on a beer each day or night when ever you drink and in stead of beer try miikes hard lemonade i lknow wat your goin through it happened to me. good luck