I'm not sure how to handle my in-laws right now. I believe perhaps without realizing it consciously, they are substituting material things for a relationship with my children. After the divorce, I had to relocate with my children to provide for us, so their grandparents are no longer able to see them on a weekly basis. I understand the void this creates in their lives and do sympathize. However, I do not feel it is in the best interest of my children for them to constantly be showered with toys and gifts. For example, this Christmas my two children had three gifts from my entire side of the family (not including what Santa brought) but about 2 dozen from their father's side...each. Their birthdays are near, and I want to now somehow gracefully encourage my in-laws, especially, to give to my children in other ways--such as a visit--rather than spoiling them with gifts. As a parent, would this situation bother you, too? What's the best way to go about getting my point across?
2006-12-31
17:26:38
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DneezGrl
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Marriage & Divorce