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Singles & Dating - 8 March 2007

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Many of you may think I'm a stalker after I tell this story, but just to let you guys know, I am alot different now and I am very ashamed of how I was back than. Im here to get the best advice possible.

It was 3 years ago when I was in high school. I was 17 years old and back than I was not that sociable at all and had hardly any friends. So my skills in communication wasn't up to par with most 17 year olds.

This took place in my gym class. I have notice this girl I found very cute and for some reason, attracted to her but I never had the guts to go up and talk to her and the first mistake I have made was just i kept looking at her, this is pretty normal at first when you have a crush on someone but if you keep doing it, it may eventually creep them out and scare them, so this was my first mistake. Although, she didn't seem to notice me doing that as much, maybe she did notice but choose to ignore me and a couple times I did see her whisper something to her friend when I looked at her.

Everyday I would look at her a couple times, figuring out how I can get a dialogue going with her but never had the guts. So one day, I told one of guys I talked to in my gym class about her, so one day, they called her over and I was kinda freaking out about that 0_0.

So she came by and one of guys said "Hey, do you have a boyfriend"? She said " No, why?" Than the guy said "Oh, are you looking for a boyfriend?" she said " No not really"

after that both of the dudes I talked to about her said "Sorry dude". Than I told the girl I had a crush on to "uhh, you can leave now, go go" she turned back and kinda gave me that laugh smile as though she found it a little funny.

So I don't know why the guys had to do that, I felt like it might of be ruined and maybe at that point I should of just let it go. But, I really liked her and I didn't want to give up just yet.

A few days later, I told my friend(the guy I talked to in p.e.) about her again, but only because the semester was over almost and I wanted to find out if she was going to be in p.e. in the 2nd semester. So I asked the my friend to go up and asked her for me because he talked to her a few times before and about me sometimes. She was across the gym so he went to the other side and talked to her for a little bit, when my friend came back she kept looking at me 0_0......

It was really really strange, its like my friend told her something about me and now she kept looking at me like she really liked me or something. I told my friend to tell her that I thought she was the most beautiful girl in that classroom. But than...the next day I RUINED IT!! I BLEW IT and I wish I can travel back in time and fixed what I have done! I have weirded or out and this is how..

The next day, she continued to look at me and I was really really nervous. In fact, everytime her and her friends got close me, it was not intentionally though, I would just walk away because I knew they were talking about me right behind my back, I heard her say "This guy said the he liked me" Than I walked away. and headed to where im suppose to sit down at. she continued to look at me, intill the p.e. class was over and than..thats where it all started to go downhill.

The next day I toughen up and I said to myself "Im going to talk to her this time" but....than...she stopped. She stopped looking at me and everything and a few times I tried to go up to her and talk to her but she would always walk away, sometimes during Lunch I would see her with her friends and I would wave to her, but got nothing in return..nothing..and eventually and I was shocked about this, she told the principal on me.

The principal told me that she didn't feel confortable with what I was doing, he said that needed to stop staring at her and stop trying to pursue her.

At this point I was confused on why she would do this.

And this is where I should of stopped, I should of gotten the message that she didn't like me anymore and I screwed up and only a fool would continue to pursue, but i've always been a fool and said to myself once more "I ain't giving up".

Here is my BIGGEST mistake of all. Although it could of been a thousand time worse and I could of done something terrible instead of doing something flat out creepy.

My next plan was a letter expression my feelings towards her, I was going to write her a love poem pretty much and it took me awhile to put it all together. The first part was an Apology for making her feel unconfortable. This is probably where I should of stopped in the letter if I were to write to her but I didn,t after that I went on on how special she was and how beautiful she is to me and how she makes me feel.

and guess what? I got in trouble with the principal again and guess what? he had the letter I gave her. What do you know. He told me it would best if I was pulled out of that class. The principal said it was nothing serious and he said he just wanted to help me forget about her and move on. I didn't get in trouble or anything thoughtout this whole incident.

and my friend told me that she read the letter I gave her to the whole classroom in one of her other classes.

It was pretty hard for me to move on but I did eventually and along the way, I've met new girls and new people and started to become more sociable as time went on. During the 3 years I have been in a few relationships.

and I've been using myspace for awhile now but than...just recently, I found her profile and to my surprise, she had a boyfriend and her boyfriend looked really familier to me. From that point on, all my feelings for her came back...after 3 years..it came back and of course I've always thought of her from time to time but now....I don't know what to do.

I told my buddies about it and one of them message her "Nothing related to me" saying "Hey I think I know your boyfriend" or something along those lines but she never replied to him, so....she won't talk to anybody she doesn't know and I'd doubt if I tried anything, she would freak out all over again.

I've feel pretty bad about it and I wish I can go back and fix it. I wish I can just explain myself to her. But messaging her sounds like a really bad idea.

But this is where I need help here, what should I do?? and what would happen if I tried to message her?? or do anything? and what would her reaction be if she saw my profile??


I don't blame her, I just wish I wasn't so stupid back than and everytime I look back on it, I get upset about it because I know maybe me and her could of been friends or more. I've made alot of mistakes and I have learned alot these past 3 years.

Other girls have rejected yea, but not because I was a creep, because they just didn't like me, one way or another but I never let that bug me, but for some reason, thinking about this girl really upsets me. And I just wish somehow I can show her that I am no longer that creepy person.

I know what your thinking "Why does it matter"?

I'll be honest, it doesn't matter, its just when I think back on it, it really gets to me and I wish I can't believe I did something so freaking stupid.

2007-03-08 22:40:14 · 5 answers · asked by DarkAaron 1

I have special feelings for a guy can he be my special friend?

2007-03-08 22:37:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our friends viewed us as the perfect couple and our demise was because I am still incollege unsure of what I want to do and he is in the real world. I have battle with uncertainty in my education and the only thing that i new was certain was him. He is a go getter and a be out side man and i have fallen into the miss sleeps alot and lack of ambition. I am working really hard on myself because it was me that inevitable forced us to this situation but up until the night we broke up he was saying I love you like normal and then we decided it wasn't working. We have talked since then and i have realized a multitude of mistakes that I have made by not knowing myself and depending on him to define me. Is there any hope or should i deal with the situation as is? We have talked twice since then and he has said he needs space but I am confused on how to go from looking at wedding rings to this point, his fault and mine. What does this really mean?

2007-03-08 22:35:04 · 5 answers · asked by Rosey83 2

Iam looking for mr right.................but everywhere i look, over the internet, in the club.................around my friends............., they always treat me wrong......................!!!!Iam a good person...........and iam open for everything.............i like to laugh.........and to go out also stay at home and watching a movie..................that is not wrong or is it?????
I dont know what to do ....but i feel very lonley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-03-08 22:35:04 · 23 answers · asked by night_age_germany 4

i've been dating this girl for three and a half months, and i feel so much for her, and care for her a lot, i really feel that i love her. Is it way to soon? or should i just say it?

2007-03-08 22:34:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do u want out of life?
is it a good life,
more money,
happiness or........

2007-03-08 22:33:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-08 22:31:41 · 9 answers · asked by jorge t 1

After a year I finally told him that I like me. I did tell him that I need to be left alone for a while cause Im not sure if our relationship is just based on lust or something more. I don't want 2 get physical and I want to take things slow. Its been 4 days since I spoke to him, he dropped me an email saying this...

"Thats the most honest u've been with me.....U did take your time....I guess u were waiting to see all this while if I really like u or not !....silly I told u early on...I find u very attractive....I miss our moments of togetherness.....pleasant memories...
Still I like your discipline...u r probably doing the right thing....if we meet, it would be impossible for me not to want to hold u....and just sink in the warmth of your embrace....though still some part of me desires u physically....I can't lie about that...or help it. but I do understand what you are saying any way I miss you alot." Is just Lust or does he really love me?

2007-03-08 22:28:25 · 4 answers · asked by julia1975 4

I posted an ask a few days ago about my ex. She ended things 1 mth ago & I had avoided contacting her to give her space. She txted me a few days ago on the basis she owed me some money & asked if she should call to discuss. I said not to worry about the money. She then said she had a dvd of mine and could bring it round. I suggested to her we chat at some point. We spoke and agreed to meet for a drink.

I wasn't sure how to approach the drink but decided to be quite casual. I got the firm impression she wanted to see me but wasn't sure why.

The drink went well. At first things didn't seem positive, arms crossed etc After a while she opened up and we talked and laughed away.

As I was taking things slowly I ended the meet probably earlier than I would have liked. We went our ways, both said it was nice to see the other & said "see you again soon". She looked sad when we went our separate ways.

What should I read into this? She seemed quite positive but we didn't chat about us

2007-03-08 22:26:57 · 5 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1

Been looking into this for a show, and there seems to be a gerowing trend of
"30something willow seeks Spike to stake her"
"gay time lord seeks Companion for next incarnation"
"wedge seeks wookie"

where the best one and dating one. I went to jedidating.com but they weantd my mother maiden name and postcode which is v.dodgy in my eyes.lord rings dating got me an advice sheet.
dr.who dating ot an invite to a gay monthly meet in central london. U.K residents only reply please

2007-03-08 22:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by comicbookrob 3

but then he tells me he like me a lot.

2007-03-08 22:15:40 · 14 answers · asked by get it right 1

2007-03-08 22:15:00 · 9 answers · asked by S. 1

2007-03-08 22:11:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not counting one night stands here, I am talking about things you thought would sort of last, maybe, with fair wind and a lot of goodwill.
Mine was two days. Boy, did I make a mistake with that guy.

2007-03-08 22:08:29 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

you lot have been great so far with your advice. am about in one hour to meet a man i care about and fell out with. I apologised, he was fine, then yesterday got all angry with me, dirty looks etc. I ignored it on your advice. Thank you. Today, he cool with me but polite, so I asked to meet him. I need to sort the past out with him. Before i go into lions den, should i think that he has feelings for me based on the hot cold extremes of behaviour?

2007-03-08 22:07:45 · 3 answers · asked by susieboo 4

well he ALWAYS does anything he can to get my attention... like flirting, trynna talk to me, stalk me, talks about meeh, and if that all doesn't work then he'll get me mad to get my attention. we talk ALL THE TIME ONLINE, and yeah he drew me this drawing thing and said he wanted me to keep it and that he drew it escpecially for meeh. and hes the kinda guy that has girls around him ALL THE EFFIN TYME! yet he gives me all the attention and makes the other girls mad until he uses them to get me jealous. hes in my first period. and he ALWAYS tries to use some sort of excuse just to talk to meeh. and he tells my friends that he hates that i'm so shy and that i avoid him. he knows i like him. he talks about me a lot i've heard. and even now his family and friends act wierd only when i'm around. i have a feeling he likes me, oh and he left his varsity game in this whole other far away school cuz he knew i was going to another varsity game. and yeah if he does like me, how do i make my move?

2007-03-08 22:06:50 · 6 answers · asked by Tash 2

iam a 17 year old guy i found this 12 year old girl. until we fell in love for each other and now she is my girlfriend. but iam relly insecure. will this girl just leave me??? does she really love me?? i really do love her and i dont want to leave her.. her dad is very angry about this but her mom is not.. what should i do??? pls help me!!

2007-03-08 22:06:50 · 12 answers · asked by MiKe 1

What's the best way to keep a girl intrested for a serious and long term relationship?

2007-03-08 22:04:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live with a guy I know I loved but not sure now. I have left several times. He is controlling, I have to tell him where I am at all times, can't see my friends, he drinks all the time, we never go anywhere together, My ex calls me and wants me back and he would do anything in the world for me, I have left my boyfriend a couple of times now and when I did, my ex went out and bought me a truck to drive. I am not in love with my ex but he is the type that would take care of me and let me do anything I want where the one I got, I just have no life! What in the world do I do, cause I can't afford to get out on my own!!!!

2007-03-08 22:04:06 · 21 answers · asked by Gayle G 1

2007-03-08 22:03:48 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

antisexual?

2007-03-08 22:02:02 · 11 answers · asked by Ting 4

I've met this girl through my mate a few times. On our last group night out, she kept trying to get me to dance near her, grabbing my hand whenever she had an opportunity and also kept trying to take photo's of me (alone). Her boyfriend was out that night and he kept giving me 'dirty' looks whenever she spoke to me. He sometimes went up to her when she was dancing nxt to me - think he was trying to tell me something!!!

I asked for her number towards the end of the night-she said she has a boyfriend(which I knew).I said it don't matter,I'm only asking for your number.She then just typed it in ASAP after that!

Does she possibly fancy me??? Why she give her number to me if she has a BF???

Said she wud meet up only in a group and we can chat then.Said her BF wud feel uncomfortable her meeting me alone....She interested in me or not???

2007-03-08 22:01:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

what's bad about it? ppl say "you're gonna wanna quit the job, or you're gonna break up"?

WHY?

what if a guy and girl works in diferent departments? and see each other 2,3 times a day.?

2007-03-08 22:00:15 · 7 answers · asked by S. 1

there is this guy i love soo mush and when ever he look at me, i see and feel love in his eyes but have never mention that " i love you ".i am confused because he puts me in an off state. i don't know if it is my emosions that makes me feel he loves me or really he does.

2007-03-08 21:58:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

i made a bet with my best frriend if i can get this guy to love me the thing is she dont no my friend is that i really do love him he is only like the way i look we both work aat the same solan he so hottttttttttt i act normal the way iam but in need him to fall in love i say sweet thing to him all the time he love but i need him to say i love u so i dont lose the bet guy i no iam bad but i really do have feeling for him help me .............

2007-03-08 21:55:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-08 21:54:19 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've recently started a relationship with a guy younger and less experienced than myself. How do I go about suggesting ways to teach him to be a better lover, without him losing his confidence?
Should I tell him at all? If so, how can I put it to him nicely?
Any suggestions would be greatfully received.
Thanks

2007-03-08 21:54:04 · 19 answers · asked by bendione 3

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