I've recently started a relationship with a guy younger and less experienced than myself. How do I go about suggesting ways to teach him to be a better lover, without him losing his confidence?
Should I tell him at all? If so, how can I put it to him nicely?
Any suggestions would be greatfully received.
Thanks
2007-03-08 21:54:04 · 19 answers · asked by bendione 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes i think that you should guide him. Everyone is different and likes different things. Theres nothing wrong with giving him a bit of giudance, just tell him when he starts how you like it and if he does something thats really good make sure he knows about it. Also ask him his preferences and he may ask you yours in return. You dont have to knock his confidence but just push him in the rigth direction and he'll soon get the hint. Tell him that you like what hes doing but if he did it like this he would really get a good reaction!
2007-03-08 22:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, I have been in this situation too, it is difficult but can have great results if you are patient. You have to have his trust and you should never be less than complimentary. My tips are to take the lead and show him and tell him what is good, give lots of praise when it works (positive feedbback works wonders). Don't always take the lead though, let him feel like the boss too. Talk about what you like in conversations outside of the bedroom and encourage him to talk too. Use it as a learning experiance for both of you. Get him to teach you what is good for him while you teach him.
I wouldn't advise ever telling him he isn't a good lover, just work on it and make it fun!
2007-03-09 06:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for a nice romantic meal and bring up the subject, what you both like and want to do he prob wants to ask you a few thing but is been to shy dont forget us males have ego thing but we realy want to learn more good luck x
2007-03-09 06:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by MARTYN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on porno videos while you;re having sex. Tell him you
know 69 positions, and show him. Read the Kamasutra
together.
2007-03-10 04:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by susan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with an ex girlfriend..... I found the best way was not to say 'you do this wrong, 'you do that wrong' but tell them that 'this really turns me on this way'..... that way you are not criticising them but just letting them know what turns you on
2007-03-09 05:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is let him know what you personally like and he'll soon learn! Don't knock his confidence by telling him he needs to improve!
2007-03-09 05:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See in the intimate moments you can tell him your styles and he would naturally go ahead with it that all only you should come forward with your requirement otherwise how will he know it.
2007-03-09 06:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a conversation with with and tell him that because your relationship is new and u don't know at each other, tell him all the things that you like him to do and how!!!!
Then he will tell u his, and then........... Good luck!!!
Have a wonderful night.....girl!!!
2007-03-09 05:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are "together," move his hands or other parts exactly where you like them to be. It will be better received if it is during the act or during foreplay.
2007-03-09 05:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it playful, and make him think that what you are teaching him is his idea.
Plus take charge from time to time.
2007-03-09 05:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by ShogiO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋