Singles & Dating - 18 November 2006

he flirts with other girls alot and he says he would stop but he didn't what do i do?

2006-11-18 02:07:35 · 11 answers · asked by Toriful♥ 1

This girl was my secondary school classmate. We used to know each other only barely. But God knows how many times i peeped at her during lesson instead of looking at the board. However, i was a shy boy (though still is) and the fact is that she had boyfriends one after another THROGHT OUT the teen years. and God know how many times i felt sour and my heart sank whenever i saw her with her guy(s).

During the poly years, i had a girlfriend and she was having a relatively more committed relationship. so my heart was with my girl at the time and hence u can only say that i have been a secret admirer "on-and-off" for 10 years.

OFF, is when i have a gf, my heart have no one else. and even when i'm single, i won't fall for a girl who is attached.

ON, is for the times when we were both unattached. it kind of give me hope bcoz she is available. For the past 10 years, i never take any action for these "on" periods.

For the past 2 months, we kind of reconnect our communication. Bcoz i'm studying in uni now and she is working, we have chance to chat for few hours daily on MSN. (mon-fri working hours only though, coz she don't usually use msn at home)

From recent chats,
she told me that she is now single, and she mentioned that she is not a late-queen for dates nowadays.
And after she know that i used to have one painful and hurtful relationship, she said that ppl have to move on and "if there's a good girl whom u like then give it a try"
She also claims that she only regard herself who had only 2 relationships coz sec sch histores are just childish ones.

We talked a lot rubbish, shared a lot of views, joked a lot and "suan" each other a lot and i feel (or maybe only i feel)that we start to have some connection.

So, last week, i managed to find some courage a said..

"you wrote on my sec sch autograph book that i can call u anytime, so.. can i call u tonight??"

but she replied "lol.. i have a dinner appointment tonight."

I was rather disappointed. I thought, if she doesn't mind me calling she would have state a time or sth.

But soon after, she said "next time we catch up with a movie, after your exam?", "when your exam finish?", "talk is cheap, fix a date now"....

so, our tentative date (or sec sch class monitor-monitress re-union if putting it mildly) is 3 dec!! just 2 days aft my exam. But the point is that we only chat on MSN and have not advanced into phone-talk and constant sms-es.

I keep thinking of her recently. and thinking..
Shd i postpone it? coz i just had a bad haircut.
what shd i say? how shd i behave? will i just blush and panic? is that anything in my walldrode that can match her smile and style? shd i pay for everything? where shd we eat?? It's not like i don't have experience.
Although i had gf before. But this time is different. She is a special person to me. (else i won't admire her for a decade
So now i'm like completely anxious and excited at the same time.

She is a very pretty girl to me. i looked at her that way for the past 10 years. so it's not like i'm saying this coz she is grown up now and having her own fashion taste.

But i have a low esteem of myself. coz i don't think i have the look. and that i'm just a poor student who owes the bank loan of $18k.

The tough point here for me is:
IS there another guys who express interest in her?
DOES she already has someone in mind?
when shd i tell her my feelings? the feelings that have been kept inside me for 10 years?
Should i buy her a present (and say it's christmas present) for that day?
Should i just write a love letter and confess everything? (probably not coz she might freak out)
What shd we do after movie?
OR.. after all, she might actually just take it at friendship level and that i am thinking way too much?

I feel that, sooner or later, i have to confess my feelings for her and give it a try. else i'll only keep thinking of her and suffocate myself.

What shd i do?
1) Taking it easy and naturally? (i think she will be taken by another guy if taking it slowly. coz she is just such a nice girl)
2) Show my feelings soon? (what if she got stunned and don't talk to me even on msn)

I'm so paranoid!! How i wish that behind every girl there is a equation and by solving it, you understand her thoughts and have her loving you!
(haha.. i'm engineering student)

Can ppl out there advice me? Especially girls. I would be glad to hear your opinons. Thanks a lot if u manage to read finish this essay.

2006-11-18 02:06:17 · 8 answers · asked by sp_jimmy 1

2006-11-18 02:04:38 · 18 answers · asked by french 1

This was late at night and then she called him. When I confronted her about it she lied about it it. She later admitted she had called him but only got a answering machine. She said it was nothing. She said she was curious about what happened to him and if he had a woman now. I don't know what to think other than I don't think it's so innocent. She said I shouldn't have been checking on her. She had a change in behavior just before this. She started spending a lot more time on the internet so I knew something was up. Is this innocent or was it her first attempt to cheat?

2006-11-18 02:04:01 · 15 answers · asked by Mike R 2

2006-11-18 02:03:58 · 4 answers · asked by GirlyWorld 1

2006-11-18 01:59:34 · 11 answers · asked by rollerznangelo 1

as always. but i want to be back w/ him again. i think he doesn take me seriously any more. what should i do. guys pls help. i think he loves me..

2006-11-18 01:59:03 · 12 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1

I just think they are so much more likely to try a bit a lez and they seem more ok with same-sex activities.

2006-11-18 01:57:55 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-18 01:57:53 · 13 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1

I'm just wondering what will happen if my b/f ejaculates in my mouth. Could i become pregnant? What if i swallow it? How does he do this but i dont' become pregnant? Thanks

2006-11-18 01:57:02 · 13 answers · asked by *Brooke* 3

2006-11-18 01:56:33 · 32 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1

I grabbed my friend's shocking gum and squirted water on it and she laughed. Also, when I was walking behind her she moved some of her hair to her sides (it was originally in the back of her hair). Point is she moved her hair, possibly to get my attn. Lastly, one day I was just talking to my friend in the hallway, when she approached me to my side. She might have thought I didn't notice her but I did. However Im not sure if she said anything because my hearing was weak on that side. Also, I had a cast on and she might have been checking that out. That's another possibility. Is she giving away subtle signs?


which sign gives her intentions away

2006-11-18 01:56:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-18 01:54:48 · 19 answers · asked by Nikita S 1

and then we ll c. did he mean i am not serious enough right now and when i become serious enough we might get married??? i don tknow whether to get upset or flattered....does he love me? if yes why doesnt he join me and live life w/ me instead of letting me clubbing while he sleeps?

2006-11-18 01:54:43 · 2 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1

I like this girl at my school and whenever i get around her its like my voice gos away and i cant even say hi to her. What should I do?PLEASE HELP A GUY IN NEED

2006-11-18 01:53:37 · 7 answers · asked by Chris W 2

the other day at the end of school I was walking back to my car so I could go home. When I was on the sidewalk, I noticed that a girl came onto the sidewalk in front of me and crossed my path. I didn't really think anything of it until she started to look at me. And since it is one's reflexes to look back at someone when they are looking at you, I looked at her and noticed she was very pretty (and she probably noticed that I was checking her out). I looked back and noticed that she was looking at me again. Once she gets off the sidewalk and walks a little ways, she says "bye" (remember, ive never seen this girl before). Since I thought she was talking to someone behind me, and since i didnt want to be late for work I kept on walking. I looked back about 10 seconds later and noticed that no one was behind me.
what are the chances that an encounter like this will happen again?
if the chances are pretty high, how should I handle the situation?

2006-11-18 01:53:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do some woman date drug dealers? Is it the money, the danger factor, or is there something I am missing. I have a friend that dates a dealer and she says she feels "safe" when with him. For the life of me I don't understand it.

2006-11-18 01:53:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the last couple of relationships i've been in I have been glad to give oral, but can never recieve it. It's not like I just have to have it, but it would be nice to get it in return. The girls say that oral sex is nasty but they will still gladly recieve.

2006-11-18 01:50:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

girls look at me all the time but don't try to talk to me there have been times when some have said hi. yesterday a girl come up tp me and starting singing to me. what should i do?

2006-11-18 01:49:56 · 11 answers · asked by darryll w 1

hi,
wat i m asking is not just for me !plz.its something about them who likes some 1 and cant tell,cant open their mouth,they have lots and lots issues IN OWN MIND.i m not asking wat u like and wat u want in ur partner.i m asking,

in which cases u gals reject boys ?i know its a difent for each nd evry person.but be open and guide here.

(and BOYS read this things and avoid making this mistakes)

and gals ur showing and opening something that will affect u also saomeday.
JUST WRITE GALS WHAT TYPES OF THINGS THAT U REJECT IN BOYS.


THANKS.

2006-11-18 01:48:06 · 10 answers · asked by hem_169 2

2006-11-18 01:46:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-18 01:44:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

What's your story? How did you become bitter?

2006-11-18 01:43:16 · 6 answers · asked by EVADIVA 1

i have a crush on d guy but i want to start talkin to him how do i start

2006-11-18 01:42:51 · 7 answers · asked by elizabeth e 1

I've been unofficially seeing this guy for 2 years but he does'nt want to commit. I go out of my way to please him but I'm tired of competing with his selfishness....we were suppose to go out last night and at the last minute he turned me down....I feel as if he knew he didn't want to go out when he asked me Wednesday night. Why do guys make promises that they cant keep!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-11-18 01:39:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

doing sex chat with other women using webcam?What if he is in a habit inspite of having a faithful and goodlooking wife?

2006-11-18 01:37:52 · 11 answers · asked by manjushri 2

I am almost 15 and I want to be a more mature person. The problem is I still act goofy sometimes because I am hyper or something, and I get frustrated because I want to get more mature. I just want to act older. How do I become more mature?

2006-11-18 01:37:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

WHAT DOES HE MEAN BY THAT?

Read the following points before answering:

1) We haven't gone on any dates
2) We've barely talked online
3) We've only talked on the phone once for 5 minutes
4) The only reason I gave him my phone number was to help him with a school project
5) I put him on my IM because he asked me to.
6) He's talked a few times about wanting to meet up.

2006-11-18 01:35:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-18 01:35:33 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was in an e-mail relationship who seemed just perfect for me - he was good-looking (according to his photograph), articulate and witty and I was looking forward to meeting him. I asked for another photo and was shocked to find that he was at least 4o pounds heavier and 15 - 20 years older than shown in the previous photo. What is the point of anyone doing this?

2006-11-18 01:35:08 · 4 answers · asked by Motek1 1