Why do some woman date drug dealers? Is it the money, the danger factor, or is there something I am missing. I have a friend that dates a dealer and she says she feels "safe" when with him. For the life of me I don't understand it.
2006-11-18 01:53:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably because she knows that as a dealer he can have most any girl that he wants (for a quick score). In this if they are dating she may feel comfortable with him because he wants her for her, not because she is cheap and easy, and that he may actually be genuine about it. She will also probably see that he can protect her through his contacts. Some women just want to feel safe (especially if something bad has happened to them in the past) and seek that safety in places we would not.
Without sounding rude, it is not really your place to understand an others love. I have seen some VERY strange relationships bloom in my time and so I can only say that you do not try to figure this question out and instead just watch out that your friend is OK and is not moving onto the junk that he is moving. Then the real battle of wits will start to try to save her from falling into that hole.
My advice is to just watch this relationship from a distance and save your energy for in case something bad does come of it.
Hope this helps.
2006-11-18 02:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is all of the above. She feels safe because she knows that he has a gun or friends near him with guns to protect him (and her). That is not going to do her much good when she gets hit in the crossfire between her date and some other gang of drug dealers with their guns.
2006-11-18 01:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of that...and some women are just addicted to that bad boy image and fast lifestyle. not to mention if this drug dealer happens to be the man...u know that dude that everybody knows and he got the cars and the money and the respect...then to a certain degree she's got all that too by being with him.
2006-11-18 02:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecure women like men who are "powerful". Drug dealers are predators who are good at convincing people that they have a lot of power and they keep the women suppressed by playing into their insecurities. He makes a woman feel like she would be nothing without him and his power.
2006-11-18 02:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by CamKeeTai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has brainwashed her into thinking all is good. As a dealer, he has a considerable amount of control. She has blinders on.
2006-11-18 01:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋