my friend asked me this(about his personal life- a girl he was getting close to), my opinion is no. It is hard enough having a one on one relationship with someone, without having a third ( the child that is not yours- so you have to deal with this person on a different level than your own child ) or even a fourth ( a biological father who is ever present) involved.
It also would affect any spontanaiety in the relationship ( you can't just go somewhere on a whim, which to me seems romantic), and if you do settle with this woman, if taxes your resources (kids cost alot of money...it's hard to raise your own, let alone somebody elses kids)
Does it also show an irresponsibilty on that persons part, if the child was out of wedlock?
Would your answer be different if the woman (or man) had been married when they had the child, and their partner had died ( car accident, Iraq, or other tragedy...mine would).
I am throwing this one out to start a dialogue.
2007-07-20
19:17:41
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