He raped & beat her constantly, saying she caused it! She found courage & left but ended up in a similar situation which she also managed to leave. She fought her demons with counselling & became a happy, confident woman with a good life. Ten years ago, she married again. This man provides for her & their children & is a 'decent, non-violent' man except he needs alcohol everyday. Usually, its a few cans of beer which is fine, but every few weeks he verbally 'turns' on her. She confronts him when he's sober but it doesnt help & all her old terrors have returned. She has flashbacks & becomes childlike but knows if he finds out, he'll get more aggressive with her. She hides her emotions & doesnt want a divorce as she feels a failure again. How do I help her? She has fought back from terror so many times, it breaks my heart seeing her suffering after making her life a success. He'll never stop drinking so is divorce her only option? Is it possible to end her lifelong memories of abuse?
2006-10-07
08:39:23
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Pixxxie
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