When I and my boyfriend started dating, he wanted to make love almost every day. He wanted me to take BC pills but I refused. I prefer condoms. He tried hard to convince me but could not. Finally he said ok, but the frequency dropped suddenly to something like once a week. Since then, the frequency is maintained average of once a week (sometimes 10 days). I prefer 2-3 times a week. He turns me down when I ask for it (sometimes harshly), but when he wants it, he just comes up to me and starts it without considering my feeling. Because it hurts me emotionally whenever he turns me down, I stopped asking for it, instead, I secretly hope that he asks me (I cuddle up with him, kiss him, ect…but doesn’t work). We talked about this issue. He thinks it is a hard work for him and prefer to do it himself sometimes. There are two reasons. One: he gets less stimulation with condom on. 2: In the past I told him what I like in sex (a few preferences such as sensitive part of the body) and he thinks it is too much. While giving me pleasure, his desire dies, and he doesn’t want to make love anymore. He wants me to just enjoy what he gives me. He is very very kind usually and we live together. I am too discouraged to ask for sex anymore. I need help to understand this type of man. Is he just selfish or is it me?
2006-07-25
03:56:28
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