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I am seeing this guy who is 4 years younger than me and we have the most incredible sex ever! I would rate him in my top 3 for sure! Oh, we have a child together too. Thing is I am confused as to if I truly love him or if I am just in love with one particular PART of him...his you know what. lol We get along great most of the time but when we fight...lordie do we fight. He wants to get married and I would love to wake up to his sexy self every morning noon and night but I am concerned that if he changes physically or sexually in any way the magic spell I seem to be under will break. What do you think?

2006-07-25 03:50:52 · 18 answers · asked by Rasi E 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Oh we have already been together for 2 years now.

2006-07-25 04:03:50 · update #1

18 answers

Don't get married because it will make everything much more complex if you do then change your mind. In my experience when you fight with someone and its a big fight its usually because there are feelings there in the first place. When 2 people are together who don't care about each other and have effectively given up there are no more arguments of consequence. Maybe lay off the sex for a real and see how things are between you, if you find you are only hanging around waiting for sex again then you have your answer.

2006-07-25 03:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If you know you're shallow when it comes to this particular situation, and you don't want to hurt him in the long run (cause you're not so sure about ...'til death do us part), talk to him about how you feel. Only you two can come up with something you think will work for both of you. Don't even worry about marriage if you have any doubt at all about whether or not it will last...divorce costs sooooo much more than a wedding.

My theory is to take it one day at a time. If the s.ex is that great, that means a lot in a relationship. It's not everything, but it is important. Why not ride it out, live for today, then just hope you have tomorrow to worry about when it gets here...

Happy s.exing!

2006-07-25 10:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0 0

Sex IS an incredibly important part of a good relationship. But it is not the only thing. Maybe you should try spending some time with him without including sex and see how well you get along. Talk to him about your fears. Tell him that the sex is so good your worried you've overlooked his other great personality traits and need to get to know him better in other ways before you can commit to marriage.

2006-07-25 11:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by vvxxzzvv 2 · 0 0

Hi

From the little information that you gave :

The very facts that your doubts about his physique change and you disliking him based on that, go to show that

(1) you are shallow yourself &

(2) you don't love him!

Love is not lust !

It is not!

obviously you don't love him at all !

And you have a child with him ?

You are very irresponsible as a parent and as an adult to begin with!

As usual, children will have to be dragged into this type of situation by selfish adults!

Get real cos True Love is hard work and unconditional!

You are in love with his sex skills sadly!

I feel sorry for the guy who wants to marry you when you don't even love him at all.

For Christ sake, Leave him alone and leave him NOW!

Leave the child with him too cos You can't even think for yourself as an adult!

How are you going to bring up the kid ?

Hopefully you'd straighten your thoughts after all these answers!

God bless you with the right decisions and courage to learn and move on !

2006-07-25 11:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you doubt it...dump it...if u really love someone you don't ever doubt it. And even when you do doubt it, it only lasts a milisecond. You can get sex everwhere whenever/whereever, but sex gets old after a while if u dont feel anything but attraction physically to a person. In the end all youre left with is a dumb jerk who's probably feeling the same about you...but just staying for the kid. Get over it...move on..and find someone u love...not something.

2006-07-25 10:55:48 · answer #5 · answered by asbb 1 · 0 0

many relationships begin with lust, after all it is often the physical attraction that gets people together in the first place. Over time this relationship can morph into love as if both individuals truly care about the other. In your case you are too shallow and concerned only about yourself. Any relationship is doomed to fail.

2006-07-25 10:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Larry T 5 · 0 0

Lust means "the desire for the sexual pleasure and enjoyment that comes from another's body, without wanting to wait until after the persons are married, when the act of love will symbolize the unity of the spouses, for marriage is not a covenant of flesh but of love."

2006-07-25 11:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dudette 1 · 0 0

Well my friend would say there is no such thing as love only lust...so go for it. But I think there is such a thing as love and you should try. Every relationship has agruments and we only get really mad at the ones we love. If you did not care or love him then you would not let him make you so mad when you argure. I wish you the best of luck in your decission. Hope everyone here is helpful.

2006-07-25 11:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by zorroinmybed 2 · 0 0

If you are only concerned with his sex appeal, then the relationship can't last. A long term relationship needs things that go deeper than the physical; trust, respect, and self-respect are also important.

2006-07-25 11:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by anne m 1 · 0 0

Well, I think you should tell him everything you put in that question and then maybe he'll understand and try to work with the relationship so it WONT be all about the " you know what" OR ... You can try to stop "you know whating" for a while and see if you treat him the same way.

2006-07-25 10:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by cutepuppy_2006 1 · 0 0

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